I just want to know there's light at the end of the tunnel

TheNightmare

I keep worrying about my situation at work every day. There's not a day that goes by without these concerns, and I just want to know if there's light at the end of the tunnel. A few people have reassured me that there is, which helps, but then I get negative and feel like there isn't any hope again. By "light at the end of the tunnel," I mean getting into work, saving money, being able to do the things I want, staying financially stable, and achieving my other goals.

Another thing I want is to get rid of these low moods and be way less stressed because dealing with them is so difficult right now. This struggle is all I have, which is why I keep posting here. I want to look at my recent goals post and realize I'm achieving those goals; that would be so great. It would be amazing to look back in a few years and see that I had accomplished most of them. I know it's not going to happen overnight, though. These goals range from a few weeks or months to years. The one I want to achieve first is simply getting a job, which I hope will bring financial stability and everything that comes with it. I need something that I can keep, but it just hasn't happened so far. Everyone is probably wondering why, and I am too.

I have friends or acquaintances who were looking for jobs and found work, but I haven't. I'm not doing much at the moment, just trying to change. I worry that I'll be in this same position in several months or a year's time. This is my second year feeling like this; I felt the same way this time last year. I have made changes, and I'm more serious about applying for jobs now. I think I'm more ready for work. However, I often invalidate my progress because I'm not employed yet. Everyone else seems to be working, and I just want to be the same. I've always felt a bit behind, but now I am truly behind. I'm trying to change that and get ahead, and I hope it happens soon.

I don't know what I would do if I were still in this position a year from now; that would be my third year. I've always worried about my future and whether I'll get anywhere, and up to now, I've proven myself right. What's keeping me going is my faith, but if this situation continues much longer, I think it will break. People are losing hope in me too, as it's taking a long time. I find myself thinking about it all most of the time now, every day, because I want it to change.

Former Member

Hey mate,

I know how much you've been worrying about this and I really hope that things start to look up for you soon.

I think its fair to say that getting into work, saving money, and staying financially stable are all achievable goals and I can't see any reason why these things can't happen for you if you keep pushing. I know you've had a few rejections and a few hurdles to get yourself over but I do think that you'll get the job you're looking for eventually... And when you do, they'll be lucky to have you.

A lot of your goals kind of go hand in hand so once you finally get that break through and find yourself a job, you can slowly start working towards the other goals. That will be good

Where are you applying for jobs, is it online? It might be worth going into stores and giving out your CV too, it shows that you're eager and willing.

Another thing I want is to get rid of these low moods and be way less stressed because dealing with them is so difficult right now.

in between the stress of searching for a job, are you doing anything for yourself? I know how determined you are to keep searching but it's also important to take breaks and to find time to do things that you enjoy. Do you have any hobbies or things that you enjoy doing to unwind? I know you like watching some folk on youtube so that's a good distraction from the stress too


I have faith in you and I won't be losing it, I know you're well able to achieve all of these goals and we're all rooting for you.


Be kind to yourself

TheNightmare

Slinky wrote: »

Hey mate,

I know how much you've been worrying about this and I really hope that things start to look up for you soon.

I think its fair to say that getting into work, saving money, and staying financially stable are all achievable goals and I can't see any reason why these things can't happen for you if you keep pushing. I know you've had a few rejections and a few hurdles to get yourself over but I do think that you'll get the job you're looking for eventually... And when you do, they'll be lucky to have you.

A lot of your goals kind of go hand in hand so once you finally get that break through and find yourself a job, you can slowly start working towards the other goals. That will be good

Where are you applying for jobs, is it online? It might be worth going into stores and giving out your CV too, it shows that you're eager and willing.

Another thing I want is to get rid of these low moods and be way less stressed because dealing with them is so difficult right now.

in between the stress of searching for a job, are you doing anything for yourself? I know how determined you are to keep searching but it's also important to take breaks and to find time to do things that you enjoy. Do you have any hobbies or things that you enjoy doing to unwind? I know you like watching some folk on youtube so that's a good distraction from the stress too


I have faith in you and I won't be losing it, I know you're well able to achieve all of these goals and we're all rooting for you.


Be kind to yourself

@Slinky Hey, thanks so much for the encouraging words. It's been tough, but hearing that you believe in me really helps. I've mostly been applying online, but I'll start looking at handing out my CV in person too, as you suggested. It's a good idea to show that I'm proactive.

As for the low moods and stress, I'm trying to manage them. I've been watching some YouTube videos to relax, and I think I might consider more stuff too. It's just hard sometimes to pull myself away from the job search, but I know I need to find balance.

I really appreciate your support and faith in me. It means a lot to know you and everyone else are rooting for me. I'll keep pushing and stay positive. Thanks again for being there.

I'll do my best to be kind to myself, as you said.