Over mothered

Former Member

I have an addiction thar my mother has recently come to be made aware of and has been unbelievably terrible to me, locking me in my house ect to prevent me from getting drugs. I understand she worries but I feel a little embarrassed when my mother has such control over my life. How can I take the pressure off? I've just been with her for 2 weeks and been sober and now I've left she's gone wild again.

River

Hey @Sara23 welcome. Idk how to help much but I suppose boundaries may help and lik3 ait down with her and explain how u feel calmly

Former Member

She's a very irrational person she deems drugs to be worse than killing someone so it's very hard to get through to her. Plus she shows little emotion when one of us says we'll never see each other again. She's calm about that but I have nobody in the world but my mum so I always wind up begging for her forgiveness and accepting the treatment

River

@Sara23 that sounds tough, do you think maybe she is just worried about loosing you or something? Like I know it feels like controlling behaviour but do you feel like she has a genuine good heart but is showing it in the wrong way?

Former Member

Yes she does she believes I will die she's so sure of it. She's really extreme with her thoughts and ways of controlling things

River

@Sara23 ah i see, I think you should sit down with her and have an open and honest convo but obviously it's your choice

ella

Well done for reaching out for support about your relationship with drugs @Sara23 . It sounds like you are having a really tricky time but there are people who will be able to support you with this- you are not alone.

Here at The Mix, our services are designed and targeted directly at young people who are under the age of 25, and from your post and date of birth it looks as though you might be a little bit older than this. This means that the community's life experience and knowledge of support is generally specialised to under 25's. As a result, it's going to be tricky to have conversations about situations specific to your age group, and we're not going to have very much practical information on hand to support you.

For these reasons, we are going to deactivate your account and close this thread- you absolutely haven't done anything wrong, this is just a space specialised for under 25's

I also want to encourage you to continue using a service specifically designed for adults:

A good starting point is Side by Side, a mental health support community run by Mind for over 18's. This platform is a similar sentiment to the community here at The Mix so hopefully this is a good place to turn to next.

For drugs and alcohol, We Are With you can offer free, confidential support with drugs, alcohol and mental health concerns. HERE is the link to their homepage and HERE is the link to their online chat.

If you've got any questions about this, then do just drop us a reply. You've done really well to reach out for support, and we hope that you find the support that you deserve.

lunarcat522

@Sara23 This sounds really difficult, are you coping alright at the moment? It sounds like she cares a lot but maybe isn't going about things in the best way as it sounds like your freedom is being infringed on a bit if you're not allowed out

Do you have any friends that you could speak to online or any communities or online groups?

Do you have any hobbies that you could do in the house as a distraction to pass the time?