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I'm in love with my best friend but can't tell her

joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
edited January 7 in Sex & Relationships
Hiii I have the most amazing best friend ever she's so smart and talented and pretty and we tried to date but It lasted a week bcs of issues at home and stuff that was about a year ago and I feel like our friendship has gotten so much better I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for her she's talked me off of many bridges ( Metaphorically) I love her but (there's always a but) she lives like 3 hours away and I feel like If I say to her how I feel it'll f**k everything up yk she might feel the same way but I don't wanna risk losing my bestfriend I could use some advise thanks :)

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  • DavidDavid Posts: 92 Budding Regular
    Issues at whose home - yours or hers? Do those issues still exist?
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    @David hers and no I don't think so
  • yanayana Community Champion Posts: 1,266 Wise Owl
    @joshy123 fr why is there always a but 😭😭
    in my opinion i think it's best jusy to stay friends with her. if u did try to date it would just be really hard considering the distance. I'm in a long distance relationship and after datinf him for 7 months it has totally crumbled. having said that, i know people who were once in a long distance relationship and are now married so it isn't like it's impossible. I've had too many experiences like this which have ended badly but I'm just being cynical lol. at the end of the day it's your choice. if she feels the same way thays incredible and if not then i feel like this sort of friendship is so strong u wont lose her. I've got a friendship like this, she helped me when i was suicidal and we were best best friends and i used to have feeling for her but she didnt really like me back but we're still really close so yeah it's entirely up to you
    my brain is not braining the way brains are meant to brain
  • yanayana Community Champion Posts: 1,266 Wise Owl
    sorry if that wasnt helpful i feel like i was just waffling lol
    my brain is not braining the way brains are meant to brain
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    That was really helpful thank you:)) @Xee
  • DavidDavid Posts: 92 Budding Regular
    Long-distance relationships are difficult & are unlikely to succeed unless one of you moves close to the other. If that isn't likely to happen, it's not a good idea to start it. If you still want to attempt a LDR, first ask people who've been in them for their advice.
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    I have before lol its hard tbf
  • yanayana Community Champion Posts: 1,266 Wise Owl
    lmk what u do in the end :) and im here if u want more advice or anythint
    my brain is not braining the way brains are meant to brain
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    Thanks:)
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    Safe to say its a friendship and nothing more
  • DavidDavid Posts: 92 Budding Regular
    If there's no chance of you & her becoming more than friends, there's no point telling her how you feel about her.
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    edited January 7
    She made it very clear tonight
  • DavidDavid Posts: 92 Budding Regular
    Did you tell her how you feel about her?
  • joshy123joshy123 Posts: 42 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    Nope didn't need to
    She sent me a text and it said Joshua yk I love you like a brother
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 878 Part of The Mix Family
    Aww, I’m sorry it didn’t go how you’d hoped. Sounds like you have a good friend who cares about you a lot though ❤️
  • DavidDavid Posts: 92 Budding Regular
    As a friendzonee, you need to decide whether or not to stay friends. That's your only choice regarding her. I wish I could advise you how to avoid being friendzoned again, but I can't & it's almost guaranteed to happen to you again multiple times.
  • yanayana Community Champion Posts: 1,266 Wise Owl
    joshy123 wrote: »
    Nope didn't need to
    She sent me a text and it said Joshua yk I love you like a brother

    ouch. hope ur doing ok dude. ik thay hurts
    my brain is not braining the way brains are meant to brain
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