Sex without dating

Former Member

Dating is viewed by millions of people as almost compulsory, but I hate it because it's boring, complicated, expensive, stressful, time-consuming & has a low success rate. Is there a way I can avoid it & jump straight to sex? I see the value of dating for some people who want relationships & I know that some people love it. However, I much prefer being single, so I'd rather not date.

Some people have suggested that I go to parties, because loads of people get laid at them. However, I'm rarely invited to them. On the few occasions I've attended parties I got nowhere. They're great for popular extroverts, but I'm far from that description.

It seems that I'm part of the large majority of the male population who is permanently blocked from ever being able to join the hookup culture.

I realise that this partially duplicates the other thread I started, but I'm trying to solve this problem from a different angle.

EmLiz

Hey @David thanks for reaching out about this. It's an interesting one because you're right dating can be all those things! I also think we're shown a 'conventional' relationship so much we don't know what they can look like for different people with different needs and wants! The most important thing is that everyone involved is happy, aware and consenting to what that looks like.

We have all sorts of information on The Mix's website about casual sex, hooking up and different types of relationship - this article in particular talks about casual sex so might be interesting for you to have a look at? https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/having-sex/the-great-sex-guide-27292.html

Here are some links for you to have a general browse as well in case there's any other articles of interest :
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/having-sex
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/relationships