"Intense music"

JJLemon18

Music has been my only way of coping recently. Its like the only thing I still enjoy. Its always there for me, to keep me company or just distract me from my thoughts. So it kills me when I hear my parents say that they think I'm so depressed because 1) I listen to music way too much. Which isnt true btw!
And 2) that the music I listen to is "too intense"... like what??? I've been listening to a lot of electronic music recently, and just because they dont like it doesnt mean its bad.
They say that after listening to it I take off my headphones and I have trouble 'understanding reality' or something like that lol, I dont even know how to explain what they meant. Tho I believe they're talking about my dissociation. This is the craziest thing I've heard this year!! They said it yesterday and I still can't stop thinking about it. I don't even know what to think...

Are they right tho, even a little??

Maybe the only thing giving me joy and comfort is actually the thing ruining my mental health all along!

lunarcat522

@JJLemon18 I also listen to music to help me cope with my mental health. I don't think music can be too intense. If it feels like it helps I would just continue doing it if it gives a sense of relief. I wouldn't let other people's opinions ruin something you enjoy, whether they're "right" or not. If it's something that helps you and sparks joy then in my opinion nothing else matters. If you've found something that helps, even a little bit, I would hold onto it.

JJLemon18

@lunarcat522 that's what I thought too. But now I can't help but constantly think about it. Every time I listen to it I just think "maybe it is bad for me". I let others opinions really affect me
But thank you! I will hold on to it! Hope you are well

VicK_torious

As a person who has done an extensive research is music psychology, I can somehow reassure you that music is one of the most safe and common ways used as a coping mechanism for mental health. It's totally okay to listen to anythiing that makes you feel better, as long as it doesn't deteriorate any personal mental health state, or put you in risk of your mental health and physical safety (through lyrics, video clips etc). There's notthing wrong with listening to music extensively, and this is something that older generations may fear as a result of the sudden techonological development or Technophobia.

Keep doing you @JJLemon18

JJLemon18

@vicky_zin Thank you so much!!

Amy22

Also a fellow music listener too I find listening to music also helps me too. It can be a healthy coping mechanism as it is shown to calm people especially if they are listening to a favourite song. Also please don't worry about listening to electronic or intense music as I also listen to a lot of intense (heavy metal) music from time to time so it's nothing to worry to about really. As @vicky_zin mentioned I think the thing with technology is commonly associated with the older generation really. If music is something that helps then keep it.

Sending hugs,
Amy22

Former Member

@JJLemon18 It's not uncommon for parents or loved ones to have concerns when they see someone spending a lot of time engaging in a particular activity, especially if they feel it might be affecting their well-being. However, it's important to remember that their perspective might not fully capture the complexities of your personal experience.

Music can be a powerful coping mechanism and a source of comfort for many people, especially during challenging times. It can provide an emotional outlet, a way to express yourself, and a means to temporarily escape from distressing thoughts or emotions. If you find that music is helping you manage your emotions and offering you some relief, that's a positive aspect of your coping strategy. But if you're noticing that your music consumption is starting to interfere with other important areas of your life, such as relationships, work, or daily responsibilities, it might be worth reflecting on whether there's a healthy balance. Additionally, if your parents are expressing concerns about the intensity of the music and its potential impact on your perception of reality, it could be worth exploring their perspective in an open and non-confrontational conversation. It can also be helpful to have an open conversation with a mental health professional who can provide guidance based on your specific situation.