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Ive only came to the realisation now of how manipulative and horrible my parents have been

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edited July 2023 in Sex & Relationships
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  • JustVJustV Inactive Posts: 5,640 Part of The Furniture
    It wasn't the common lie that parents say when they have to put their dog down lmao
    Had me in the first half 😅

    It's normal to grow up and reflect on your relationship with your parents and the way they looked after you (or didn't). It's healthy to think about, because it can add context to your experiences and reframe how you think about your childhood, and maybe even you as a person.

    This might be a tangent, but the way we perceive ourselves tends to be influenced by people around us. And if those people don't understand our experiences and negatively judge our behaviour, that can become how we see ourselves too. For me, one of the biggest things about moving away and finding my own people was breaking free of that.

    It's also so common that it borders on cliche that people have better relationships with their parents when they leave home (even if that process is rocky). I think it's because you can decide what relationship you have with them and set the terms, making it what you need it to be. A lot of people reach their late teens or early 20's and their relationship with their parents isn't good, and it takes that time and space afterward to heal and build something better.

    Like @Xee said, that doesn't excuse the way they've treated you and she's right that it won't be this horrible forever, but I get needing to leave. You mentioned wanting to go into student accommodation - is that something they're against? If so, do you know why?
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 1,294 Wise Owl
    i want to break freeee
  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 1,294 Wise Owl
    it's ok my parents are delusional too, you're gonna be ok (I can't wait till u move out it's gonna be great)
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Community Champion Posts: 1,294 Wise Owl
    edited July 2023
    I'm so sorry your parents are like this :( it's horrible to treat your child like this normally let alone when they're going through shit. sending massive fat warm hugs <3 in my experience just 'saying what they wanna hear' doesn't work at all, I seem to never be good enough for my parents and I just feel worse so just keep being yourself and if that isn't good enough for them then that's their issue they can fuck off (my advice is prob shit sorry idk what I'm saying)
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