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Former Member

People are so horrible for saying stuff like that, I hate that people see scars and think 'god they're so attention seeking' it's just so so rude and insensitive so I'm sorry someone literally said that to you but that's a wonderful response You should be so so proud of yourself for fighting and doing so well

Former Member

I heard this quote somewhere once before - never be ashamed of a scar, it shows a battle won

Sometimes it's easy to forget this when people judge, but remind yourself of it, your scars are nothing to be ashamed of @morgan007 and like you said, you have a story. You are human.

If anything this person sounds attention seeking themselves for even saying this to you

How are you feeling since they said this?

Former Member

Scars don’t necessarily mean attention seeking it could mean that someone has been injured or hurt. I have a scar on my leg from where I walked into a wood saw.

Amy22

Hi @Past User I'm sorry that you had to go through that quite recently. I just wished people were more kinder and had a better understanding of self harm scars and ADHD. What they did was really rude and I can't believe someone would have the audacity to say that self harm is 'attention seeking' as it is not. It's people like that who aren't worth your time as if they don't have anything nice to say then they really shoulden't say anything at all. I know you have come so far in your journey and like @hastings1066, @RenP and @Xee said you should be proud of your scars as they tell your story, your journey. Don't be afraid of your scars or what others may think of you. Your an amazing person and just keep being you.

Also, I noticed you mentioned about someone online talking about ADHD and saying it is an 'illness'. I feel like that was very insensitive of them to post online as ADHD isn't an illness but that the person is wired differently and see things differently to everyone else. As someone with ADHD, I see it as that I'm wired differently. I feel like lots of people online has been giving out mis-information on things like ADHD even Autism or any neurodivergency in general. I just think people need to think more before they post online especially in real life too. How are you feeling at the moment?,

Hope your okay,

Amy22

Amy22

Past User wrote: »

Hey @Amy22 agreed, I have adhd to so it's probably why I took offense to it. They apologised for saying it when I replied to them but it still annoyed me.

Im fine currently, how are you?

I can understand, the main thing is that they apologised to you and owned to them being wrong. Im not too bad this week, thank you for asking

spacedog

@Amy22 I do really agree with the amount of misinformation about neurodivergency in general but even also just with anything mental health related - so many times on social media I've seen people self diagnosing themselves with autism or ADHD just to be 'a part of the group'. Hell, I've seen people self diagnosing themselves with irritable bowel syndrome, I thought that was quite funny

Amy22

IainJammyboy wrote: »

@Amy22 I do really agree with the amount of misinformation about neurodivergency in general but even also just with anything mental health related - so many times on social media I've seen people self diagnosing themselves with autism or ADHD just to be 'a part of the group'. Hell, I've seen people self diagnosing themselves with irritable bowel syndrome, I thought that was quite funny

Yeah I got to agree with it online as there was an incident of an influencer on tiktok who pretended to have ticks which caused a lot of people to see it as a trend. I often find people see neurodivergency as like a 'trend' eventhough it shouldn't be a trend as it is a genuine thing and being neurodivergent can be challenging at times so I don't get why people want to use it as a trend. Also I have seen people labelling fictional characters in films and TV too especially if that character is portrayed as different to others too.