Sometimes feeling like a failure

TheNightmare

I have just been feeling worried about stuff like money atm and money in the future. I worry about my future in general, like my career and everything. Even now, I sometimes just feel like a failure. I just am 22 years only have an auto licence, got no job or career sorted yet , no girlfriend, still a virgin, no gcses, no a levels and I just dont know anything Im good at. I'm sometimes at home, and I just sometimes think Im a failure like whats my actual purpose. I went to college, I was on a foundation course to help me get me a job but I dont know I achieved from going, I just felt like its pointless the people who have done to same course as me have just ended up doing low end job like retail etc, nothing wrong with these jobs, obviously but its not easy working in retail, being under pressure, dealing with rude customers etc. I think it wouldnt be goid for me.

My main worry that Ill be stuck in some
job I dont like because when i was at school, people said college would be more freedom and better, but it wasn't. My secondary school was not too bad, tbh but I still wanted to finish and move on a bit. College just felt like a step down from school, i felt treated like a child there and didn't like the way I was treated in general. Im worried I'll just be in a job unhappy most of the time most of my life, which is depressing. I feel like that's how things will be. I worry about being unemployed all my life which sucks too, I'm kind of unemployed atm which sucks so I'm just trying to change it like looking at apprenticeships or a part time job etc that I'll like. I just don’t want to do anything I don't like because I think my confidence would get ruined if I just do anything. I just don’t know if I will do well in life

Former Member

Hi, @FordRanger . It’s a good step that you’re willing to share your feelings. It is very common to worry about money and future, especially during this age. It takes time to figure out what career you prefer or find the job you’re interested in. Everyone’s journal is different, and there's no set timeline for achieving success. It's also important to focus on what you can control in the present moment and take steps towards your goals.

It's okay to not know what you're good at yet or what you want to do in terms of a career. Exploring different options, trying out new things, and gaining experience through volunteering or part-time work can help you discover your strengths and interests.

It's also important to not compare yourself to others and their paths. What works for someone else may not work for you, and that's okay. Focus on your own progress and achievements.

It's great that you're actively looking for ways to improve your situation, like considering apprenticeships or part-time work. Keep in mind that any job can provide valuable experience and skills that can help you in the future, even if it's not your dream job.

Remember to be kind to yourself and think about your strengths. It's okay to have moments of self-doubt, but try not to let it consume you. Talking with friends or family might be helpful. You are capable and deserving of a fulfilling life and career, and with time and effort, you will find your way.

Former Member

Hi @FordRanger

I hope you feel a little better now that you have been able to share how you are feeling.

Everyone is different in how they will progress in life, sometimes things can take longer than you originally expected them to and it does feel like you're stuck but things do work out the way you want them to in the end and sometimes in the most unexpected and amazing ways.

Sometimes it worth focusing on what you have achieved and being proud of yourself for that, it may not be life changing but it is still amazing and you should own it.

But hang in there, you will get there in your own time and at your own pace