Is this normal?

TheNightmare

I wanted to ask if its normal to feel like this, it's just feel down and not in the mood to do stuff like go out or anything the night before college or school or work. Its just when I used to go college I was like that. For example my friends wanted to go out for a meal for his birthday on like a Monday evening but I think I had college on a Tuesday morning so I didn't want to go because I knew I'd just not be in the mood because whilst I'm about id just be think about college the next morning. I'm just glad I left college for that reason but I just dont want to feel like that for the rest of my life for work, where I have to feel like that again where I'm not in the mood to do stuff like the evening before work.


Cheers guys

JustV

I used to be like this, @FordRanger. Are you introverted? I know I always used to feel like I needed to recharge in the evenings after college, because seeing and talking to people all day really wore me out. It still does, and I still like to have my evenings free during the working week.

That said, I wonder if it's worth exploring other reasons college might have been at the front of your mind. Were your feelings about it positive (e.g. excitement) or negative (e.g. anxiety)?

I say that because I used to be very preoccupied with college when I was going there, because I really didn't like it, and the anxiety and stress of going meant it was always on my mind. Every weekend I'd just be worried about Monday, and so on. It can be quite all-consuming.

TheNightmare

Mike wrote: »

I used to be like this, @FordRanger. Are you introverted? I know I always used to feel like I needed to recharge in the evenings after college, because seeing and talking to people all day really wore me out. It still does, and I still like to have my evenings free during the working week.

That said, I wonder if it's worth exploring other reasons college might have been at the front of your mind. Were your feelings about it positive (e.g. excitement) or negative (e.g. anxiety)?

I say that because I used to be very preoccupied with college when I was going there, because I really didn't like it, and the anxiety and stress of going meant it was always on my mind. Every weekend I'd just be worried about Monday, and so on. It can be quite all-consuming.

I'm not introverted. Yh it sucks. My feelings were negative, I just didn't like college.

Yh I remember on Sundays I'll be like unhappy then I remember one of the years at college we had catering for the first lesson, I just got there and looked around it was depressing. It was Monday, just after the weekend like I couldn't be arsed, everyone was in the kitchen ready to cook in like aprons, it was bullshit bro like so depressing, just Monday morning and it was January. Yh it sucked bro. At this time I'm talking about I couldn't drive too so was just getting lifts there so every Monday morning one of my parents would get me up, I'd get changed and everything then we'd get in the car to go and at the end of the day I got the bus home which I hated just waiting for it, it was dark then I'd get to the stop near my house, walk home, eat tea, do whatever then the next day I'd get up to go to college and the same again. It sucked.

JustV

I hear you @FordRanger. I was in a similar position and I don't think I'd go back for anything! Nothing worse than being stuck in a cycle of doing things you don't want to do.

For me it got so bad I was skipping college at least once a week. Then I started failing classes and my teachers all kept insinuating I wasn't trying hard enough, which made me feel worse.

Did you drop out in the end or graduate?

TheNightmare

Mike wrote: »

I hear you @FordRanger. I was in a similar position and I don't think I'd go back for anything! Nothing worse than being stuck in a cycle of doing things you don't want to do.

For me it got so bad I was skipping college at least once a week. Then I started failing classes and my teachers all kept insinuating I wasn't trying hard enough, which made me feel worse.

Did you drop out in the end or graduate?

I was the same, I started skipping. I think I didnt pass the course coz I was skipping that much but I didn't really need to pass it.

JustV

That's fair enough @FordRanger. What do you do for work now?

TheNightmare

Mike wrote: »

That's fair enough @FordRanger. What do you do for work now?

Tbh, I'm not doing much since finishing college, I have made some seperate discussions about it, this is kind of why, i don't want to get a job where it's like college where in unhappy etc because then it's just like what I mentioned above all over again.

JustV

FordRanger wrote: »

Mike wrote: »

That's fair enough @FordRanger. What do you do for work now?

Tbh, I'm not doing much since finishing college, I have made some seperate discussions about it, this is kind of why, i don't want to get a job where it's like college where in unhappy etc because then it's just like what I mentioned above all over again.

I get you. Have you found anything you enjoy doing that you could do for work?