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Am I selfish
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on yourself at all, especially when your mental health has gotten worse. Yes, it's a bit selfish, but selfishness isn't always a bad thing. As humans, we definitely need to take care of our physical and mental wellbeing from time to time.
Altruism is great. Oftentimes we get a nice feeling inside after knowing that we've helped someone. But being too altruistic can make us feel stressed, overwhelmed and drained. Putting others above yourself, and giving too much for others can have detrimental effects to us.
I feel like we've been led to think this way since society praises those who partake in a lot of selfless acts and paints those who are selfish as bad people, when in reality, achieving a balance of healthy selfishness and healthy altruism is important - even though it can be imperfect at times and difficult to achieve. Both yourself and others can benefit greatly from this
I hope this helps, and please don't feel guilty for the self-care you deserve.
Kai
Don't be afraid to look after yourself now and then, there is nothing bad about doing self care. As our body's and minds need time to reset.
Hope you are feeling okay,
Sending hugs,
Amy22 ♥
I'm sorry you've been going through a lot and I'm hearing that this has really negatively impacted your mental health. It is incredibly brave of you to speak up about your feelings and it's good that you're trying to take them into account and taking care of yourself. It's also good that you're thinking about your mental health in the long term (how you might be feeling around Christmas and how helping others will impact you in the long run).
I just want to remind you of the services we provide at the mix and the ones that can be of help in case of relapse or crisis
Furthermore, i will link an article on relapsing and the Mix's self harm hub page in case they may be of help