worried about my best friend

maldrin44

My best friends mum is being really abusive to her calling her ugly fat dumb stupid and saying the she is an embarassment to the family and saying that I should of never of had you to her that is really putting pressure on her and a few monthes ago she self harmed but she has stopped but she is wanting to run away from home and never return because it has got that bad and she has been diagonsed with anorexia and she was counting calories and body and weight checking but she has stopped but she still is restricting quite alot and im worried that it will turn into bulima because after a while in recovery you can get extreme hunger and then that wants to make you eat alot and when you eat alot it makes you feel guilty and then you will want to purge and then it will go round and round in a cycle

kaii

Hey @maldrin44, thank you for reaching out and telling us about your concern for your best friend. It's absolutely terrible that this is happening to her. The fact that you posted your concern shows that you're a lovely best friend. I'm sure that you're doing this already, but please continue to give her a supportive and safe environment whenever you hang out with her, since her mother fails to do this. You can do activities together that you both like, such as watching a good tv show.

These resources may help your best friend:

The Mix: have a helpline which is open from 4pm to 11pm everyday: 0808 808 4994 , they also have a free, 24/7 Crisis Messenger service where you can text THEMIX to 85258.

Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/ - your best friend can call them on 116 123 for free, or give them an email on jo@samaritans.org if she is more comfortable writing her thoughts down - talking about her experiences may help as it's not healthy to keep it all bottled in.

Beat: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/ - since you mentioned that your best friend was diagnosed with anorexia, this website may help her cope since Beat have a free helplines: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/get-information-and-support/get-help-for-myself/i-need-support-now/helplines/

In addition to this, you can also get information about how to support your best friend with anorexia: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/get-information-and-support/support-someone-else/

Your best friend is extremely lucky to have you I hope that this helps and that everything turns out okay

sinead276

I just wanted to say I second what kaii has said regarding the support links they have provided in their message and your concerns show just how good of a friend you are. I also wanted to add that whilst supporting your friend and being there for her is important during this period of time - don't forget that if you also feel like you need support, feel free to message us or at least make sure to look after yourself as it can be a challenging time for you as well as your friend.

Hope everything becomes okay soon

Sinead

Matthew_04

Diddy456 wrote: »

As someone who has recently recovered from an ED the most important thing you can do is support your friend with your presence. They may not want to engage and talk about their ED (from my personal experience) but just being there and offering your support of they ever might need it is always so so important. Try and do activities and hang out together to help her in other ways. I found that having someone around me that's not pressuring and not always wanting to talk about my ED helped massively. Having a support group that isn't health related makes a huge difference. Celebrate her progress. From what you have said it sounds like that you are already a massive support and an amazing friends you are doing an amazing job

Hey @Diddy456
Really great advice here but since this thead is a year and 8 months old old I've gone ahead and closed it. For future reference it's best to only comment on discussions that are recently active (within a few weeks is a good general rule). Do check the date of the thread before responding.