Feel like I'm gonna end up choosing sides and I don't want to 😢

awesomeminecraft6789

Hey guys long time no speak

So basically a couple weeks ago, there was a massive amount of drama on a group chat that me and my friends have I won't go into what happened in case it starts more drama but Yeah and then one of my friends who was sick of all of it talked to me about next day we weren't friends because she said she doesn't know if I'm two faced cause I've been hanging out with friends who she has never been a big fan of I don't know if it's jealousy or not because she says she isn't but idk.

I'm getting stressed because I care about and love both sides but I feel like I'm in a situation where I'm going to have to choose sides and I don't want to have to do that because I've spent enough of my life being depressed cause of what happened last year I don't want to go through that state again Ik part of growing up is sometimes losing people but at this point I'm so stressed that idek who my real friends are cause I've got one side telling me one thing and another telling me another thing

Idk what to do anymore guys it's really upsetting me I just want those lot to be friends with each other idc about anything else think I'm on my way to another mental breakdown because it's too much 😢😭

Kate_20

@awesomeminecraft6789 Sorry to hear that you are in a difficult situation and you are very brave for reaching out. Sounds like you care about your friends and you don't want to lose them. It might be better to listen to your heart and do what you think is the best for you. If you lose any friends because of that, they are not your real friends. Your mental health is important. If some of your friends are making your mental health worse, it is important to step back and make some space for yourself. Are you currently getting some more help for your mental health?

Former Member

@awesomeminecraft6789
I can definitely understand how this would be very upsetting for you. As @Kate_20 has said it is definitely important for you to look after your mental health. I think it is definitely a good idea for you not to choose sides as this may cause more upset for you within the group. Letting your friends know that you are not taking a side as you care about them all, may help them to leave you out of the conflict. I hope this gets better for you soon.

Former Member

Hey @awesomeminecraft6789

It can be so difficult feeling in the middle of things, so I'm glad you decided to share this with us here. We are here to support you

I'd love to echo what has been said above. Your mental health is more important than anything; so, if you need to take a step back from this then that's absolutely okay. I wonder whether your friends know that you are feeling this way?

You shouldn't have to choose sides. This is a big pressure to have on your shoulders. You really deserve to have your feelings heard and to feel able to just step back while those friends fix their issues. Letting them know that you are there for them both (if you feel able to support them), but that you really don't want to pick sides.

Take good care

awesomeminecraft6789

Hi guys update on that situation

I think she's decided to straight up not be friends with me anymore cause the other week she told me that she thinks I should find someone better to be friends with because she thinks I'm bored of her which I'm not but I didn't say anything cause I decided that it's probably better this way so no drama occurs between me and her so I decided she's right

Former Member

How are you feeling about that? @awesomeminecraft6789

awesomeminecraft6789

Tbh I don't know how I feel about it I think it's most probably for the best