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I feel my friend doesn’t care about me even though they probably do

tkdogtkdog Posts: 281 The Mix Regular
I dunno I feel like I give more to them (my friend) sometimes
They try to be there at least mostly.
But often they just make me feel worse then not saying anything at all (this is not intentionally they just say the wrong things really), like they support me with all the small things
But most other bigger things apart from a select few things I feel better when I take my issues to some other friend. Or just about anyone else really. I guess they are working on it a bit though idk.

I feel like in recent times our conversations have gotten more broken or shorter over text.
Thats okay in the sense we don't need to be there all the time and they can just chill (although I have some issues from the past because of from being ghosted which is nearly better but still affected me and im working on, so its hard for me)
But I feel like I have missed out on having a deep conversation for a long time, or maybe im just asking for too much. Its just when its so broken it makes it hard to have a good conversation.

But then they say im their closest friend? But doesnt feel like it, at least anymore.
I feel like im withdrawing or either way it hurts so much. I guess the problem also there have been other communication type issues. Sometimes i feel like I have to push to ask things, more maybe they r shy. Also I feel like they avoid saying the negative to not upset me, but I prefer honesty and bluntness, as well as the fact it just compounds issues, or makes the small things difficult like if u cant say no i dont like that or whatever then i will keep asking u know? Which is tiring. I keep thinking something is wrong.

They have been going through a bit in the past few weeks health and also just a few things happened so yeah. Plus they generally have loneliness issues. But i dont think its just that. There r times when i think are they actually genuinelly happy for me?or just using me to feel better? And i also feel like they used to be jealous of me, maybe less now though. I think that was tho because they were so dissatisfied with things. They have said in the past i made them happy but i dunno why that is, but also mainly i just dont feel like valued, they never been mean ever to me just.. well not sure.

I been feeling sad because of this
I have no idea what to say to them
I don't want to guilt them but I guess I should say something.


  • daisyella12daisyella12 Posts: 119 The Mix Convert
    Hi @tkdog

    I am so sorry you are feeling this way, it sounds like such a challenging situation you are in. I think you are right in knowing that you need to communicate with your friend. This seems to be the main problem in the friendship and I think they would also benefit from an honest conversation with you about how you can both help each other and become closer.

    I really hope this conversation makes things easier and better for you, you do not need to do anything you are not comfortable with. However, sometimes the most challenging situations we have to face make the biggest improvements in the long term.

    Sending you lots of hugs and support <3

  • tkdogtkdog Posts: 281 The Mix Regular
    I think I feel a bit better now I kinda broke down a bit just getting my thoughts together. I feel kinda alright now but yea at one point its something I will bring up once i get a bit of space.
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