Please answer - missing my ex :(

Former Member

Hey everyone
I hope you’re all doing well.

I feel completely stupid for missing my ex, but I really miss her and there is no way that I can get in contact with her again (not that I should get in contact with her anyway) due to her blocking me on all social media’s. So feeling really low about this, does anyone have any tips on how to get over an ex

This is my second time trying to get over my feelings for her.

I feel so stupid for posting this, especially because it’s been 6 months since we broke up, but everyone on here has some really good advice so I thought why not

Hope you all have a lovely rest of your day

Former Member

Hi @Rose124

I'm really sorry to hear you've been feeling low. I think it can be fairly common for many people to take a little while to get over an ex, especially if they were a big part of your life and are now suddenly not there anymore. Even if 6 months seems like a long time, it doesn't sound silly for you to still be upset. You should be able to take as long as you need to recover
Do you think this could perhaps be a time to focus on yourself and your own needs? Maybe you could find a new hobby or set yourself some new goals to achieve?

Former Member

Thank you, that’s so true @Past User

That’s what I’ve been trying to do, it’s just so hard. Cause no matter what I do to try and distract myself she always there at the back of my mind and then when I have a quiet moment, the feelings always get to strong for me to deal with.

I’m definitely gonna take some time away from relationships and just spend that time with myself, getting to know my passions in life and being fine being single and on my own.

Thank you for your advice though, I really appreciate it

Former Member

That’s okay @Rose124
It seems like it might be a good idea to take some time away from relationships to focus on yourself if you think you need it. Is there perhaps a new passion that you could find that you didn’t ever discuss with your ex? That way do you think you might potentially find that whatever it is doesn’t remind you of them?

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There would be yeah, I’m studying to be a drama therapist so I’m volunteering for mental health charities which I’m putting a lot of my passion into.

However, my ex may have messaged me and I may have messaged her back and we may have had the most awesome conversation ever, and I’m now really hoping that I can become friends with her as I have really missed her and see where things lead from there. But I’m very excited for the future

Anyone have any tips on how to befriend your ex again, that would be greatly appreciated

Thank you so much for listening to my rant

Former Member

Good luck that with that. It sounds like a really interesting career path.

Oh wow that must be nice to have got talking again. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling more positive about things now 😃

Former Member

@Past User

Hope you’re well

Aww thank you!! Yeah I’m really excited for it!! I was gonna study directing theatre, however I realised that I much prefer counselling and drama so I combined them together and found my favourite career in counselling.

Yeah it is really nice, at the moment I’m just taking things slow, and messaging her here and and there, but yet it is so nice to have gotten back into contact again. Hoping that we can become friends

Former Member

Hello, I hope you're doing well

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling low but I just want you to know that this is a natural way to feel after a break up. Breakups are a big life change anti will take time get used to difference in your life and daily routine. You're not silly at all for feeling this way and you should take as much time as you need to make progress, every small step counts

I've seen here some amazing advice has been offered in terms of focussing yourself so I'd just like to add to this and say to focus on what makes you happy, this low feeling won't last forever

Former Member

Hi @Rose124,

It sounds like getting back in touch with your ex was a good thing for you. Happy to hear

In terms of be-friending an ex, it sounds like you are doing all the right things with taking it slow. I'm friends with my ex, and communication/boundaries has been the most important thing. Knowing how much contact is healthy for you both and respecting that

Best of luck - I know there's a stigma around ex's being friends, but for some people it sure is possible and can work!