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Fallen in love with the concept of love rather than love itself...

Former MemberFormer Member LancashirePosts: 86 Budding Regular
I have created this beautiful concept of love that i yearn for yet I know that I'm unready for a relationship and do not want love... I know this fantasy I have is unrealistic but ...
Please don't judge me lol.

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  • lovemimoonlovemimoon Posts: 2,318 Boards Champion
    Relatable.
    We fall in love with our own concepts of love than the reality of it. :#

    I dream of settling down and having a small family but being in a relationship... It's a different ball game. :joy::sweat_smile:
  • Former MemberFormer Member LancashirePosts: 86 Budding Regular
    Exactlyyy.

    I mean I've never been in a relationship but I kind of have when I was young but I was really young so I don't count it.

    I just... I don't like it . Gives me shivers lol ofbsisbsjjs
  • lovemimoonlovemimoon Posts: 2,318 Boards Champion
    If you don't mind me asking, what don't you like about relationships?
  • Former MemberFormer Member LancashirePosts: 86 Budding Regular


    @lovemimoon Hmmmm I don't mind haha but lemme think about it...

    Maybe hating my parents relationship has something to do with it???

    Growing up I always encouraged them to get divorced

    Maybe seeing toxic relationships online and obsessively reading them like yandere growing up as a kid

    When I just realised its bad but it's too late and I've already associated relationships like that

    My fear and dislike to men irl

    Growing up with only loving females feeling close to females only feeling comfortable with females not men

    Hating I mean disliking most men in my real life

    Never meeting a decent male outside of my family lol

    Living in a community with stupid boys lol

    I mean I'm bisexual I guess I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a female

    But there's also the fear of rejection

    Been rejected a lot

    Falling for a "straight" girl well she said she was the straight so I was sad

    In a homophobic area so that too

    Strict parents

    Idea of marriage and kids

    Don't really want kids

    Um yeah SORRY THAT THIS IS SO LONG OMG

    I don't like... touching people

    Well most people but I guess I'm touchy with people I'm close to

    I don't like people touching me

    But with people I'm close to I guess it's okay

    I like being "innocent" even tho I'm not but I just like it

    I just feel like a relationship is kinda uncomfortable

    I just sorry dijdishsusah
  • lovemimoonlovemimoon Posts: 2,318 Boards Champion
    No, no, no! @Zoya_Jungkook
    Giiirl, write an essay if you have to! :joy:

    What you've listed down are completely understandable. I'm sorry to hear that - to experience toxic relationships first-hand must have been difficult. <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member LancashirePosts: 86 Budding Regular
    @lovemimoon
    Haha thank you so much you're so sweet
    🥺
    Aww thanks didbsjsb
    Wait when did I experience-
    You talking about my parents? Oh yee
    I mean it's okay I guess it could be worse 😊
    Cause every time my parents would fight and... it scared me
    And I hated it
    My family would tell me its like that in every relationship so I just linked it to every relationships
    And now I don't like them dindidbsjs💕💕 thank you for your support dofjksjd
  • lovemimoonlovemimoon Posts: 2,318 Boards Champion
    To a certain extent, yes but actually no.
    So... yesn't? :joy:

    It's natural for couples to have an occasional argument there and then. I'm not sure the extent of your parents' fights so I do apologize in advance, but if the dynamic of their fights are causing you distress then that's a different story.

    Sending lots of virtual hugs! <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member LancashirePosts: 86 Budding Regular
    Lmaoo

    Yeahh noo don't apologize haha its not your fault

    Help you're literally so sweet and cool thank you indispensable

    Sending lots of hugs back 💕💕💕😊
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