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Young carers
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Hi guys, I wanted to make this discussion for young carers or just anyone who has experienced living with a disabled family member. My mum is disabled herself and it was a struggle for me growing up, having to deal with the changes in dynamics and our worsened financial situation. I want everyone to know they can come to me for any struggles they might be having and I am more than happy to give advice.
During school I attended some surrey young carers meetings which I found useful as it was nice to know that I am not alone and there were other people my age going through the same situation. They would often take us out and do activities as well as providing a support group. I will provide the link for anyone
who wants to check it out. https://www.actionforcarers.org.uk/who-we-help/young-carers-under-18/ , but feel free to ask if you want to know anymore about my experience with them.
This is a safe space for everyone no matter what your feelings are regarding your situation. Everyone deserves a support system and a place to express themselves.
During school I attended some surrey young carers meetings which I found useful as it was nice to know that I am not alone and there were other people my age going through the same situation. They would often take us out and do activities as well as providing a support group. I will provide the link for anyone
who wants to check it out. https://www.actionforcarers.org.uk/who-we-help/young-carers-under-18/ , but feel free to ask if you want to know anymore about my experience with them.
This is a safe space for everyone no matter what your feelings are regarding your situation. Everyone deserves a support system and a place to express themselves.
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I have a brother who's on the high end of the autistic spectrum and it's been a difficult journey.
Thank you for sharing that must be very difficult for you, do you have a support system at home?
My younger brother is also on the spectrum but the lower end and I know how much of an effect it can have on the family.
We've had several attempts but my brother isn't too fond of people he's not exactly familiar with. It takes time for him to adjust to things.
But we managed to figure things out at the end! ^^
What about you?
For me it was difficult to get him help as CAHMS did not initially think he needed it but he is now starting to get the help he needs.
What about you?
Aaaye, that's good to hear! What about you though? How are you doing?
Honestly things are a lot better for me, going to university has strengthened the relationship in a way as it is more of a choice to be in contact if that makes sense, it took a while to feel this way though and there is almost a guilty feeling that sticks, especially from moving away.
That's very understandable and I'm sorry to hear that. As long as you maintain a good relationship with your family, then it's all good. ^^
Our relationship has definitely strengthened, thank you
No worries
I’m a Young adult care too for my brother - though that will stop in September due to the fact I’m moving away for uni
We also run a Group chat space specific for young carers if you ever wanted to join on a Monday 8-9:30 , this is the link of you havent been before Bit.ly/GroupChatDirect
When I was younger, around 13/14, my mum became really ill and we were told that she would be chronically ill for the foreseeable future, and there wasn't much they could do for her. So I had to care for her along with my younger sister and dad at that time. It was super tough, and definitely brought me a lot of worry and anxiety with the change and pressure put on me.
I also attended a local young carers group once a week, and it was really nice. I did suffer quite badly from anxiety back then, so did struggle sometimes, but I was able to make friends and speak to people that were in the same situation as me, and also have time every week to take my mind off what was going on at home. We also went out on a trip or two, and it was really nice.
My mum's condition has improved slightly over time, but it's still hard to manage. But I went to uni in September last year, so that really changed things for me, and I think I've learnt to deal with it and accept it a lot more now.