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Siena
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I work in retail and 3 staff members have asked me what’s on my arm. Am I just being sensitive or don’t you think it’s a bit rude? Customers have been rude to me but you’d think like staff wouldn’t mention it. It’s really awkward. I just say it’s scars from ages ago. they say yeah but what from. It’s like ugh why do you need to know. Like the person who asked today. Was literally my first time speaking to me and he still asked so it’s not like I know him. Is it rude? If you worked with someone. And you do speak to them - would you comment on their scars asking how they got there? I just wouldn’t and i don’t know maybe it’s not rude. Idk
I just wanna know if you would comment on a colleague scars if there was a lot on her arm with just a question on how it got there. If maybe you didn’t actually know it was self harm.and if you wouldn’t do you think it’s rude?
I just wanna know if you would comment on a colleague scars if there was a lot on her arm with just a question on how it got there. If maybe you didn’t actually know it was self harm.and if you wouldn’t do you think it’s rude?
“And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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I agree with the others. Though they mean well, I believe it's insensitive for people to ask about your scars, especially when your relationship isn't that close to be discussing intimate detail like that.