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Confused about sexuality
Former Member
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Hi all. Ive been struggling with my sexuality for a few months. I feel like I may be experiencing sexual orientation OCD as I am constantly troubled. I find women attractive but I also feel im attracted to the other sex sometimes but it seems to vary. I can't see myself in a gay relationship and I feel straight a lot of the time but Im not really sure. Could this just be OCD? I have suffered with OCD for many years but never about my sexuality. Thanks
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Thank you for sharing this with us - you did great to open up about how you are feeling.
Trying to figure out your sexuality can certainly be a confusing and consuming thing. Sexuality is fluid, so it can seem like your thoughts keep changing over time. Because of this, it can take time to figure things out. I can relate there! So, if you'd ever like to talk about your feelings here, as a way of understanding them better, you are more than welcome to
You mentioned thoughts about whether this could be sexual orientation OCD. As I am not a professional, I wouldn't want to diagnose you/say for sure. However, I did find this article and thought it could be helpful. You might like to compare how much you relate to the obsessions & compulsions they describe. If you think it sounds like you, then perhaps speaking to a professional to learn more about how to cope with this could be a good idea. Maybe if you have spoken to somebody before about your OCD, you could speak to them about this type of OCD too?
We are all right here to help you with this in any way that we can! Take good care x
As Coco said, you've done a great job of opening up about this and naming what you're feeling.
Whilst it might feel really confusing and stressful right now, thats okay! Labels can help some people understand themselves, but others rather not to label and to just go with the flow of how we feel! Thats totally okay too!
We can find someone attractive, but not be attracted to them, if that makes sense? Like we can see someone and think they look good but wouldn't want to be in a relationship with them! That can be confusing enough in itself, so be kind to yourself through all of this
Like Coco said, maybe reaching out to someone who supported you with your OCD before could help with these feelings too, they might be able help to navigate what are obessive thoughts, and what are just exploring how you feel?
This is a lot like me! I'm so surprised someone feels the same on here, I'm not so sure about the OCD bit but wanted to let you know there are a lot of us like this out there, you are no where near alone my friend
Whilst I can’t specifically tell you what you’d identify as or anything like that, I just wanted to say that whilst having labels may help you identify who you are (which is perfectly okay), remember there is no rush to work out for definite your sexuality and that any label you identify with can change in the future and that is also okay. It’s perfectly okay to also not to have a romantic drive as well – some people do and some people don’t, it’s just the way life is.
At the end of the day, we love who we love so don’t try and put too much pressure on assigning yourself to a specific label. But at the same time, if you find/work out a label for you then that’s also great.
Just wanted to send some reassurance that this is common for many (probably more than we think), especially at the age we all are, so there is absolutely no rush.
Sending hugs and take care,
Sinead