Negative step mum

Distraction

I'm just so tired of it, the stomping about, the games, the anger and eggshells,

I try not rise to it but I feel like I'm losing myself 

Former Member

Hi @Distraction

This sounds tough! I'm not sure if you'd like support, or just a space to vent, but please know that either is absolutely fine. If you'd like to talk about this a bit more, you are more than welcome to and I will support you as best I can Sending huge hugs and support your way

Former Member

Hey there @Distraction

This sounds like a really tough situation. I'm so sorry that you feel like you're losing yourself to all this negativity. It sounds like your step mum is very frustrating, maybe even scary, to be around. Please keep posting here to let us know if you'd like advice, or you just want to vent. We're here to support you either way! 

Distraction

Thank you both, I feel like I have to point out that she can be a lovely person and has a big heart, our relationship has always been a bit rocky and I'm sure I get under her skin to

I have posted on here about it before and I'm sorry if I keep repeating myself, it's just when this stuff happens I get so angry, I feel like its boiling inside me and I just want to scream at her for being so unreasonable but knowing thats not the best way to go about it, I keep it in, it makes it really difficult to then see her stomping about and slamming doors and shouting about stuff that doesn't even make sense, she doesn't just get angry, she erupts and when she does I just feel like doing the same

I've really had enough, It's exhausting

I don't know what I'm looking for by writing this to be honest, I've tried a lot of things before and frankly I'm pretty much done, if she wants to be a child then let her be, thats who she is and I can't change her, further more she's not my responsibility, it's not my job to make her happy, its just hard when you love the person and want a good relationship

I'm feeling a bit deflated

Former Member

Hi @Distraction
You don't need to apologise for posting here or repeating yourself. From what you've said, it's understandable that you're struggling with your step mum especially when her behaviour makes you so angry that you want to explode yourself. It can be upsetting when you're stuck in a uncomfortable situation which is difficult to do anything about, as you said it's not your job to make her happy, but understandably doesn't make it easier to be around.

You mentioned that you don't know what you're looking for by posting here but sometimes it can feel refreshing or calming to just vent and explain how you're feeling. We're all here for you and you deserve to be heard and supported even if you're just feeling deflated and want to talk about it.