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Online Dating

WillowWillow Posts: 15 Settling in
So I done something stupid. 

I started online dating and in the last 3 months I been talking to two guys. I have only met up with one of them a few times and like him more. 

The other guy I feel really bad like I lead him on. How do I "end" something that hasn't really started cause I feel so bad. 

Comments

  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 487 Moderator
    Hey @Willow

    It sounds like you're in a bit of a jam. I've been in this situation before, and I've always found that it's best just to be honest with the other person. Gently let them know that you think they're a great person but you don't want to pursue a relationship with them. You can give your reasons if you feel comfortable doing that but you're under no obligation. Like you said, you can't end something that hasn't really started! 

    It's totally normal to feel a little guilty or like you're leading someone on but just remember, you've done absolutely nothing wrong. Dating is all about exploring your options and figuring out what you want. :)
    Mike
  • Tee ATee A Posts: 119 The Mix Convert
    edited January 30
    Hey @Willow !

    I agree with @chubbydumpling, sometimes honesty is the best policy :) .

    I just wanted to add something else. 
    Try not to feel bad. Especially when online dating. Online dating allows you to date with ease. You seem interested in someone and not interested in the other person, which was likely to happen. Rejection is an expectation when dating so please try not to worry about this too much. We don't like everybody and everybody doesn't like us! :lol: 

    Happy dating!
  • SeaweedSeaweed Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    I was thinking of online dating but I'm not allowed any dating apps because I'm quite young. I've had a boyfriend before (not online) we were together for 2 years. Any ideas?
  • WillowWillow Posts: 15 Settling in
    I know this would make me sound like a horrible person but I ended up ghosting him as I had too much anxiety built. I didn't know how to word it and was afraid to be yelled at (even if it is through a text). The other guy however I don't know feels like I am losing him now. He isn't as responsive anymore and I just feel like he isn't interested in me. Like I been on 5 walking dates with him. He hasn't held my hand once or anything. No hug, nothing. Feel like this is a red flag maybe I don't know. Which is sad cause I really quite like him. 
    Seaweed
  • WillowWillow Posts: 15 Settling in
    Wanted to update I was overreacting everything is cool with this guy. I think I am putting a lot of pressure and expectations on myself rather than just chilling the hell out.
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