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Is something wrong with me?
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I have been feeling the same and finding it quite challenging. I have had sexual relationships with men before and they have been enjoyable but I rarely feel that sexually aroused and am almost unable to orgasm with a guy. I have been trying to explore whether I am asexual or attracted to women but I definitely fancy men so I am a bit confused! I too get nervous having sex with guys now as I don't enjoy it like they do and I feel too self conscious. I did a few self love things (like drawing yourself naked) which helped a bit but I guess it depends on why you don't have more sexual desire with the people you are with?
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Perhaps I am not the best person to comment here - perhaps you will think of me as a freak. I don't find having sex that exciting either but I love masturbating with girls and boys. I have done so since I was little and I find it much more exciting that actual sex. I grew up next to a farm and had a lot of freedom there. I would walk around in my underwear or even naked and hump the trees and roll around in the mud and things like that. A few times I convinced a friend (mostly boys but a few girls too) to come with. It is the best experiences I have ever had. Sometimes we masturbated one another but mostly we just did it in front of each other. When I was 12 to 14 years old I had a girlfriend. We became extremely close and spent most of our time together. We could sit and talk for hours and hours. We went and walk around on the farm all the time and masturbated in front of one another and once in a while each other. She liked watching me doing it in all the different ways and also liked humping the trees with me. Especially in my briefs. I loved it when she wore my briefs. Unfortunately they moved away when I was 14. I was heartbroken and became almost anorexic. It took me more than a year to get over her. I am still not really totally okay. We still often talk over the phone. I think I might be going off topic a bit. What I want to say is that sex is overrated in my eyes. I have made much better connections with people through masturbation.