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Family - they can all f-off (lots of swearing sorry)
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Honestly I'm fed up of being treated like I don't belong in my family.
Nobody gives a shit - my dad's parents never bothered with me - my dad rarely bothered with me.
I start trying to get in contact with some of my mum's side of the family - that I have met and know - but nope.
My mum's cousins have kids and I've met a few of them, we got on well when we were younger.
I thought it would be nice to send Christmas presents to everyone so I contact the parents (my mum's cousins), 3 of them are fine with it. I have actual contact with one of the kids as it is.
Then I get the Instagram details for a few of them and what do they do? Reject my request. Like honestly go shove a dick up your arse.
I pm them on Instagram and guess what? No response. Funny. Fucking hilarious.
Then I pm one of the other of my mum's cousins on Facebook and he'd previously said I'm welcome to visit - but when I ask what his kids like and if I can send Christmas presents he says he doesn't feel comfortable with his girls getting presents from PEOPLE THEY DONT KNOW. Wtf????
God damn I'm honestly fed up of being treated like I don't exist or I'm not part of the family. Wtf did I do?? Oh yeah nothing.
I'm honestly raging. Like they're the only family I've got and I'm stuck with that shite.
Nobody gives a shit - my dad's parents never bothered with me - my dad rarely bothered with me.
I start trying to get in contact with some of my mum's side of the family - that I have met and know - but nope.
My mum's cousins have kids and I've met a few of them, we got on well when we were younger.
I thought it would be nice to send Christmas presents to everyone so I contact the parents (my mum's cousins), 3 of them are fine with it. I have actual contact with one of the kids as it is.
Then I get the Instagram details for a few of them and what do they do? Reject my request. Like honestly go shove a dick up your arse.
I pm them on Instagram and guess what? No response. Funny. Fucking hilarious.
Then I pm one of the other of my mum's cousins on Facebook and he'd previously said I'm welcome to visit - but when I ask what his kids like and if I can send Christmas presents he says he doesn't feel comfortable with his girls getting presents from PEOPLE THEY DONT KNOW. Wtf????
God damn I'm honestly fed up of being treated like I don't exist or I'm not part of the family. Wtf did I do?? Oh yeah nothing.
I'm honestly raging. Like they're the only family I've got and I'm stuck with that shite.
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I am feeling a bit better about it today, but it still hurts. It was just exceedingly raw when I wrote this.
I honestly just feel so unwanted. My dad's side of the family wanted nothing to do with me for so long. I thought my mum's side was different. I always go and see one of my mum's cousins - turns out the nice cousins come from one of my grandad's sister (who was nice) and the dicks come from my grandad's not nice sister. Huh funny 🤷🏻♀️
Nice to have a good rant about it. Guess it's good to know where I stand with everyone.
I appreciate all of you guys on here, I really do. It does just hurt so bad. Like idk why I deserve both sides of the family to want nothing to do with me. Ugh I've never done anything to any of them
It’s always ok to rant here and get things like this off your chest
I mean no, it's undefendable. Idek why he tried to defend him. He tried to say he's a decent bloke. Aye I don't think so.
Even my gran said they're spoilt brats (her literal words).
So yes, she told me not to bother with them.
Even my cousins on my dad's side are talking to me. Like that's something.
Gonna be very awkward when I have to go to a family gathering/funeral or whatever 🤷🏻♀️
It's their loss, pal. You have some really great people in your life right now, try not to let the distant family members get you down.
Family gatherings shouldn't be awkward for you... you were the nice person in all of this.
You're right, things are looking up. I gues I just got too hopeful while thinking of having a relationship with my distant relatives. I guess because I have a relationship with the 2nd cousins that I have it made me think it was possible.
LOL I even asked Matt to remove them from my family tree.
Yeah I agree, it shouldn't be awkward, but I doubt I'll have the courage to be anything other than awkward LOL RIP ME
The situation sucks and he sucks for being so damn rude. He could've let you down gently but he chose not to, that's on him.
It's good that you're keen but it's sad that it didn't work out.
I'm sorry
You really deserve a nice caring family I have had some experience with what you have just said too with my dad's side of the family,
They stopped talking to me from when I was about 13 I havent really spoken to them for years now so I know that feeling
You are not alone in this
Sending big hugs
I love you all ❤️