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Afraid of men?
Former Member
Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
So, this is a really hard thing to explain but ill try my best. I dont have any kind of sexual truama or trauma from men and ive never being abused or anything like that but throughout the years ive been noticing ive began fearing men. Ive been catcalled before and definately have experiences with creepy and manipulative boys but nothing overly significant i guess. Currently im in a very happy and healthy relationship with my boyfriend and he makes me feel so safe, happy and listened to. It just seems like at the moment hes the only boy i can trust. Boys and men in my life are one by one proving themselves to be awful people. I dont want to start fearing everyone. Even though i dont have any kind of sexual trauma i fear being assualted or r*ped more than anything else in the world. I dont want to turn into one of those girls that hate men but they just make me so uncomfortable and angry.
Its a hard thing thing to explain because i dont have one traumatic event to pinpoint it to, its mostly been a buildup of little things over the years (catcalling, creepy comments, stares etc) idk if any of this even makes sense lol.
I have no idea if anyone has experienced a similar thing which is why i thought id put it out there to see, feel free to let me know
Its a hard thing thing to explain because i dont have one traumatic event to pinpoint it to, its mostly been a buildup of little things over the years (catcalling, creepy comments, stares etc) idk if any of this even makes sense lol.
I have no idea if anyone has experienced a similar thing which is why i thought id put it out there to see, feel free to let me know
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I can definitely relate to this as have had similar thoughts in the past. Regardless of whether you have been through trauma, I do think a lot of us women are pretty much taught from a young age to fear men, but also to fear rape / assault in case it is ‘our own fault’ for wearing the wrong thing, walking in the dark etc etc the list goes on.
Lucy
Welcome to The Mix,
Just wanted to let you know I've moved your thread over to sex and relationships and it fits better there and hopefully you'll get some more support
How are you doing today?
Totally agree with @Mike (and thank you Mike for sharing honestly about your own instinct too - that’s really eye opening actually).
So so glad to hear you spoke to your personal tutor about it - very brave thing to do, well done you. I really hope it helps you. Let us know how you get on?
All the best
Lucy