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It’s Really broke me
Millie2787
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I’m not sure where to put this so I’ll just put it here , feel free to move it if it isn’t in the right place .
For Years now I’ve always felt like there was a part of me that’s been missing , a part of me that I could never have found . Until at the start of the year I started playing around with my pronouns and realised They/Them was what felt right to me .
Then a few months ago i realised I was Non-Binary, no I don’t know how or why all I know is that it feels right , it feels like that part of me that has been missing.
Anyways skip forward to last night I decided to put something about pronouns on my Instagram story , I was tired of hiding it away from Family .... my sister asked what are pronouns , I told her and all hell broke lose. She didn’t Accept who I was telling me I’m either “Female or male , he or she . There is no inbetween” . I then saw she text my mum saying “ ..... Not a he or a she now , hahahahaha , Get a fucking grip “ . I just know that my mum would of agreed with her she I can imagine them both laughing about me.
For Years now I’ve always felt like there was a part of me that’s been missing , a part of me that I could never have found . Until at the start of the year I started playing around with my pronouns and realised They/Them was what felt right to me .
Then a few months ago i realised I was Non-Binary, no I don’t know how or why all I know is that it feels right , it feels like that part of me that has been missing.
Anyways skip forward to last night I decided to put something about pronouns on my Instagram story , I was tired of hiding it away from Family .... my sister asked what are pronouns , I told her and all hell broke lose. She didn’t Accept who I was telling me I’m either “Female or male , he or she . There is no inbetween” . I then saw she text my mum saying “ ..... Not a he or a she now , hahahahaha , Get a fucking grip “ . I just know that my mum would of agreed with her she I can imagine them both laughing about me.
When I told mum she just said I agree with her there is no in between and There’s always something wrong with you . This wasn’t something I just decided over night , it wasn’t an easy decision to make !
All of this has truly broken me , I spent hours last night just sobbing at the fact that my family don’t love and accept me for who I am. I mean they never did but this just confirmed it even more.
I Basically don’t have a family anymore but I still have to live at home with mum and see my sister snd I honestly don’t know what to do. I can’t be around people who don’t accept me for who I am
All of this has truly broken me , I spent hours last night just sobbing at the fact that my family don’t love and accept me for who I am. I mean they never did but this just confirmed it even more.
I Basically don’t have a family anymore but I still have to live at home with mum and see my sister snd I honestly don’t know what to do. I can’t be around people who don’t accept me for who I am
Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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Comments
I think it's important to find and focus on the areas where you can be proud.
My best friend couldn't really be him at home but we had great times together. Focus on the people and places who love you for you.
You know here we'll always use the correct pronouns, names, anything x
Its great you've figured out what was missing and you should be able to live that with happiness!
Some things are limited with the current situation but if you can find an LGBT youth group those are great and really accepting
Love you to the moon and back @Millie2787 ❤️
I think @Past User is right that focusing on the places where you are accepted is a good plan. It’s hard when you’re living with the people who don’t accept you, but spend as much time in places that do (even if that’s online) as you can
I love what @Salix_alba_2019 has said - 'we are your family and we'll always accept you and be proud of you.' That is so, so true. We are immensely proud of you and you are totally accepted here, exactly as you are. You are a wonderful person - we will always be here to remind you of that
hugs