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It’s Really broke me

Millie2787Millie2787 🐶 💜Posts: 3,648 Community Veteran
I’m not sure where to put this so I’ll just put it here , feel free to move it if it isn’t in the right place .

For Years now I’ve always felt like there was a part of me that’s been missing , a part of me that I could never have found . Until at the start of the year I started playing around with my pronouns and realised They/Them was what felt right to me . 

Then a few months ago i realised I was Non-Binary, no I don’t know how or why all I know is that it feels right , it feels like that part of me that has been missing.

Anyways skip forward to last night I decided to put something about pronouns on my Instagram story , I was tired of hiding it away from Family .... my sister asked what are pronouns , I told her and all hell broke lose. She didn’t Accept who I was telling me I’m either “Female or male , he or she . There is no inbetween” . I then saw she text my mum saying “ ..... Not a he or a she now , hahahahaha , Get a fucking grip “ . I just know that my mum would of agreed with her she I can imagine them both laughing about me. 

When I told mum she just said I agree with her there is no in between and There’s always something wrong with you . This wasn’t something I just decided over night , it wasn’t an easy decision to make ! 

All of this has truly broken me , I spent hours last night just sobbing at the fact that my family don’t love and accept me for who I am. I mean they never did but this just confirmed it even more. 

I Basically don’t have a family anymore but I still have to live at home with mum and see my sister snd I honestly don’t know what to do. I can’t be around people who don’t accept me for who I am 
Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.


  • LaineLaine Animal crossing Mama On a break 💕Posts: 2,478 Boards Champion
    Don't have much to offer but wanted to send all the virtual hugs! ❤️

    I think it's important to find and focus on the areas where you can be proud. 

    My best friend couldn't really be him at home but we had great times together. Focus on the people and places who love you for you.

    You know here we'll always use the correct pronouns, names, anything x

    Its great you've figured out what was missing and you should be able to live that with happiness! 

    Some things are limited with the current situation but if you can find an LGBT youth group those are great and really accepting :)

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille

    "Here's to the ones that we got
    Cheers to the wish you were here, but you're not" ~ Maroon 5
  • Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Posts: 1,078 Wise Owl
    We're your family and we'll always accept you and be proud of you. 

    Love you to the moon and back @Millie2787 ❤️
  • Millie2787Millie2787 🐶 💜 Posts: 3,648 Community Veteran
    I love you guys @Laine @Salix_alba_2019 so much  :'(
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
  • Emoji246Emoji246 Posts: 456 Listening Ear
    Sending hugs we are here for u🤗❤️🥰
  • independent_independent_ Resident Coffee Addict ScotlandPosts: 5,355 Part of The Furniture
    Sending you massive hugs <3 I’m really sorry they didn’t react well. Some people will never understand, it’s really sad. You should be able to be proud of who you are and to be yourself. 

    I think @Laine is right that focusing on the places where you are accepted is a good plan. It’s hard when you’re living with the people who don’t accept you, but spend as much time in places that do (even if that’s online) as you can <3 
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • coc0maccoc0mac Posts: 634 Incredible Poster
    Sending so many hugs your way :heart: You truly deserve to be loved and accepted for exactly who you are. You were so brave to share that piece of you with your family and I am so sorry they did not react the way you hoped. I sincerely hope that with time they can show you the love and respect that you deserve.

    I love what @Salix_alba_2019 has said - 'we are your family and we'll always accept you and be proud of you.' That is so, so true. We are immensely proud of you and you are totally accepted here, exactly as you are. You are a wonderful person - we will always be here to remind you of that :heart:
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 845 Part of The Mix Family
    Just stopping by to echo everything that’s been said really @Millie2787. Really proud of you for realising this and being open about it. Your family sound like they don’t understand right now... maybe one day they will, maybe they won’t, but we will always be here for you and respect and accept you for who you are. 💜
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
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