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Self harm

SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
in Health & Wellbeing
If asked about a month ago I’d say I’ve never really been much of a self harmed. I have scars. But they’re from crisis times. I would hardly ever self harm when not in a crisis. But recently I have and it’s been like some competition within my self to make bad. And I like feel satisfied looking at it. And because of in crisis I self harmed in place I’d rather I didn’t. I feel like it doesn’t matter if self harm there anymore and it’s obvious it’s self harm just by looking at scars so won’t make much difference but now I feel I’ve made it really obvious. Now I feel really shit. But I feel like I’ll keep doing it anyway. But kinda running out of space so i don’t know what wrong with me. Help 
“And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley

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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    I’m feeling massiveeee sudden of bad Sadness right now. 😭
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Not in a crisis but feeling really down with such bad  bad thoughts of harming myself 😭 I hate it. I just feel like want someone to understand how painful sadness actually is.
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Obnoxiously Large Anchor Posts: 1,201 Wise Owl
    Self harming is a really vicious cycle. It all starts from an event or feeling causing the self harming. This leads to feelings of guilt and sadness which triggers the cycle again. 

    When I was self harming I used to talk to Childline about it. It's better to talk about it than to hold it in. 

    I think the biggest thing to understand is there's no quick fix with it. You have to try and break the cycle. 

    Nothing really worked for me immediately. Some things I tried was drawing on myself, drawing cuts or pretty art, elastic bands and ping them when you wanted to cut, getting a fidget toy to play with, pinching yourself instead of whatever else you would normally do. Run your hands under freezing cold water or going for an ice bath. 

    Create a routine. Whenever you feel like self harming have a routine - it could be going to get a glass of water, eating a certain food or running a bath with bathbombs. 

    It's nothing to be ashamed of, a lot of people self harm. It really is a horrible cycle and if you need a rant or a chat, feel free to drop me a message or chat on here! 
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