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Struggling a lot
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I’m struggling so much today, just feel so low and don’t know how much more of this I can do... it’s just a constant feeling so depressed and having no support because no service would have me due to Covid. People say like stay strong and stuff but idk if I can right now
“Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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Well done for reaching out, I'm pleased you did
It sounds like you're feeling very low today so I wanted to send huge hugs your way. And may I ask, are you safe right now?
Access to support services seems very frustrating right now, sorry to hear it is that way. Would you consider any online sources of support in the meantime, either services here at The Mix, or perhaps speaking to other services too such as the samaritans/shout?
If you'd like to talk a little bit more about how you are feeling, feel free to let it all out here too. We are right here. Better days are coming your way, you can do this
Yeah I’m safe right now just really struggling. I’ve spoken to both samaritans and shout before but only if I’ve really needed to because the signal here is so bad I’ve got to go out to phone or text.
It can be so shite feeling low and not knowing what to do or how to deal with it.
I suppose time becomes a big factor, finding the little things, self care (even if thats just sleeping)
people underrate sleep, sometimes you need a lot of it, if your fighting really hard and thats ok.
Covid is a big pain in the arse, especially in theses moments
Like co0mac said, we are here, we got your back and always will have
much love and care
Yeah sleep is good aha, that is when I can actually sleep, I’m struggling to sleep quite a lot at the moment and then being tired in the daytime.
Yeah Covid has made things a lot worse, but everyone seems to think that it’s all because of covid which it isnt.
I think I can sort of understand where your coming from, I use to do something and I haven't done it in a long time (which is good) but the feelings still there, sometimes it's not as strong and sometimes it's all I can think about, I'm just trying to say that although I don't fully know what you're going through or feeling, I know what you mean with it having no ending, no one can give you a date when it'll get better or even a little easier or even if we have to live with it and it can be so isolating and lonely and scary which can also make it harder and it just sucks.
That's is true, about Covid
Hoping today will be better. It won’t be though. Every day is the same
Hugs. Have some chocolate. It might not fix everything, but it tastes nice.x
I agree, chocolate is amazing!! Hot chocolate too I love that.
I don’t by any means think seeing friends is a fix all, but my hope is that when I can go visit friends it might at least be a space in which I don’t have to pretend to be okay all the time compared to being at home. Being around supportive people - even if all you do is watch a movie together - can maybe be more comforting than being alone?
Honestly though I get you. Doing good stuff doesn’t always make you feel good and it’s not long term. Hugs and love. Be gentle with yourself.x
No I’m not sleeping well at all, it’s really horrible and you’re right it makes everything else feel so much worse.
Ah yeah I get you re being around supportive people, that is good I find. I do have supportive people at home like now that my parents know sort of what I’m going through they’re great about it. So I guess that’s a good thing. I suppose I am very lucky to have supportive parents and a supportive partner as well, and I feel like that should make me feel better about myself but it doesn’t. And I was telling mum that last night. That even though I know I have support, it doesn’t feel better. I feel awful about that.
Thank you so much for your support it’s so appreciated
Have you tried any of the sleep stuff? Here’s a list, if anything helps: sleep schedule/ night routine, a bath before bed, a warm milk drink, sleepy tea stuff you can apparently get from shops?, or just chamomile, no screens or caffeine before bed? Not at all that I stick to very much of any of that, but if there’s one thing that helps it’s worth a try. I find milk with honey or Horlicks helps sometimes.
Having supportive people around you doesn’t make you not depressed anymore my dear. That’s completely okay and not anything to feel guilty about. Chemical imbalance, yeah? That’s not going to be fixed by chocolate or a supportive partner. That’s understandable.
It’s more just about finding small things that might make it less terrible. Sleep won’t fix it, but might help. Being with a friend might mean you temporarily feel less alone. A good meal might taste nice. Getting cuddles from a pet might be comforting. Watching your favourite movie. None of this will fix everything, but it might make it temporarily marginally less awful, and right now maybe that’s all we need to get through.
That's exactly how I feel, those things can be really nice in the moment. But I think some of the people in my life assume that they should fix everything, which they don't. I think the assumptions that other people make can make things worse sometimes because it's like they have their expectations and when you're not meeting them, that's hard even though you know their expectations aren't realistic.
it's really good to hear that you're consciously trying to help yourself sleep more. Are you also using decaf coffee now too? I remember when I was going through trouble sleeping I read a book called Why We Sleep by a guy called Matthew Walker. I don't expect you to read the book but if sleep is something you would like to know more about then maybe listen to this podcast interviewing him - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pwaWilO_Pig
Once depression comes into our lives, in some aspects we will never be the same again. Accepting that there will always be a shade of it present, and with us wherever we go, can be difficult. But there is also something liberating about not trying to control something that is out of our control. When people try to find a "fix" for something, they are not comfortable with sitting with what is; and resisting the present moment can be extremely anxiety-inducing. Have you tried speaking to some of the people in your life about not feeling the need to offer fixes/solutions, but instead just be there to listen and give comfort and support?
Depression teaches us to be stoic - even on the good days, we have to remember that nothing is constant and that everything changes. If nothing else, I hope this thread is showing you that there are people out there/here going through the similar challenges. You are not alone
Just want to check in and see how you are currently?
I hope you are doing some what ok and know we are here for you
Need to ring my GP on monday. I'm a bit scared to tell them how much worse it's got really.
And thank you to @JamJar for your insightful reply, that's much appreciated and im sorry I've only seen it now!
Dont be afraid to ring the GP and tell them. It's ok to not be ok and you deserve so much love and support.
Please do look after yourself 💕
Thank you for the support @GreenTea
I can understand being worried about what might happen.
Would it be helpful if I found some webpages from other sites about what happens when you go to the GP?
Idk why im scared TBH. I know my GP is understanding, she's one of the only people who really got it when I spoke about it, but im just scared of what she'll say cause I've got worse (and was already pretty bad) so quickly.
Even if you just chat, she's there to support you
I'm so grateful that she's understanding, it made the biggest difference first time I spoke to her.
What about any local charities?