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Sex on the first date?
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I was wondering what people's thoughts were on having sex on the first date?
Do males see women differently if they do go for it and vise versa?
What do you consider pros and cons if there are any?
Do males see women differently if they do go for it and vise versa?
What do you consider pros and cons if there are any?
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That does make me feel better lol because it's been on my mind the past few hours. The question popped up because I've been talking to this guy for a month now and things are going well 😏. We've already had a one virtual date and we'd like to see eachother in person probably around September. That part of me wouldn't mind sex on the first date but I'm a little hesitant that it might jeopardise having a meaningful relationship that isn't motivated by hooking up. He's from up north and I'm down south so part of me is like "it's now or never". For context we've both had one sexual partner but I waited 3 months with my ex.
I feel like I've gone on a bit lol. Thank you for sharing and making me laugh hahaha i deffo agree with it generally being okay if the feeling is mutual.
Great advice
I agree with both @Mike and @Aidan that if it’s a mutual thing then it’s absolutely fine. As a female I think the idea of us seeking out, and enjoying, casual sexual relationships is a bit more stigmatised than it is for men - if a man did this he’s praised by his mates whereas if a woman does it it’s not seen as favourably.
But there’s nothing wrong with it at all, sex is great and us females should feel we are able to do whatever we’re comfortable with without society branding us in any particular way. That includes having sex on the first date.
I think I agree with everyone here - as long as it is mutual I personally don't think there is anything wrong with having sex on the first date!
I really like this Huffpost article with women talking about having sex on the first date - https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/women-sex-on-the-first-date_n_55a539ede4b0a47ac15d756f?ri18n=true&guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuYmluZy5jb20v&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAECeugrN0k2EYScYn1fw5aPGw34Ia6FuHEY-IpdP6XObdpnPNqZJPT4OfaydbiXmQl28dVs8fAypqNVPgB1kXe0TFEI-9g9AOPWQ1PBnlGNOPH0cNBGrK2gbDVS_COEYkZxJUatBgzlQMdXqbmW4pBJ0SiUfycxnAqIMKyDBxxNc