I haven't been truly happy in years

Former Member

I'm only 21 and I feel like along the way at some point I stopped feeling happy and like myself. 

I've had so many ups and downs throughout but I can't pinpoint the exact time the problem started. I have days where I wakeup and feel somewhat fine and days where I am just miserable.

I don't know what to do anymore to help, I just want to feel like myself again.

independent_

Hi @Eden, and welcome to the mix!! It's great to have you in this community

I actually know exactly how you're feeling here, I feel like it's been years since I've felt "happy", and im only 17. I'm really sorry you're feeling like this too. 

Does anybody know how you're feeling? Do you have anything that helps you to feel at least a little bit better on your worst days?

Former Member

@independent_ thank you <3

I've been talking to my parents and some close friends about how I feel, however, on my worst days I just want to be left alone and nothing seems to cheer me up.

Former Member

Hi @Eden and welcome to the mix. 

I too have days where I wake up feeling down, and there isn’t always a reason. I’ve spoken to quite a lot of people who have this same issue, I honestly think it’s normal albeit unwanted...

I think recognising how you’re feeling is a really good start - if you feel ‘off’ and will be better off recharging alone for a bit then at least you can let people around you know so they don’t make it worse. If nothing seems to cheer you up - that’s ok. I look at it as a wave that you just need to ride - the down as well as the up. But see if you can find a healthy distraction - I come here or might watch something if I want to be distracted? Do you have anything like that that you enjoy? We’re always here if you need.

Don’t know if that helps at all but wanted to say you’re not alone!

Take care

-Lucy 

Former Member

Hi @eden. I Hope your doing well. I am 21 years old my self. The way you have described yourself to how you feel . I have been feeling like that alot recently, But I always try to be positive about things . I try to busy myself for example  I clean my room, sit in the backgarden or like go for a walk . I know it's really hard  but try to take small steps each day. For me exercise daily has really improved my mood and to how I feel about my self and Eating healthy is so important so you get the right nutrients in your body. Try to go to the doctor ask them I'm they can give you any cognitive behavioural therapy. It really helps I hope you get better.

Siena

Hey Eden and welcome!

 IM also 21. 

 I feel similar and it is awful. Your not alone  it feels like nothing will go back to the way it was before you felt this way. Reaching out for help is the first step so it’s really good you came here and speak to parents and friends. That support can make a bit of difference 
how are you feeling now?