Simple ways to support others✨
(I'll put each part in a spoiler so it's not a wall of text, feel free to share your tips!)
- Showing empathy.
What is it? It's simply putting yourself in their shoes and imagining how they're feeling.
How would I show this?
You may say things like "I would feel the same way if I was in your position" or "That would upset me too!" "No wonder you're frustrated"
Sometimes we can't think of any advice to give and that's okay a simple message to say you're listening is okay too.
Active listening is a good thing to demonstrate.
What is it? Essentially a way to show you are listening.
How would I show this? Several ways, one way is to show you have listened to what they have said by repeating. Not the whole phrase word for word, but a bit for example.
If someone says they have had an argument with their parents because they never let them go out with friends, you can say "You said you had an argument with them, how are you feeling after that?" Or
"It's hard when we have arguments with parents, have you spoken about it since?"
Another way of active listening is through Asking questions to get more information.
What is it? Open ended questions are ones that cannot be answered with a yes or no.
How would I do this?
My earlier demonstration on repeating is a good example for this, The thing with asking questions like "have you spoken to them about it since?" Is it leaves it open for a simple answer like "no" and it may leave you a bit lost on what to ask next, (these questions aren't wrong and can still be helpful, from there you can still ask whether they want to, etc it's just that it may be harder for you if you're unsure) "How are you feeling after that?" Is more open ended and allows them to think about their feelings and give more detailed answers like "really upset, it's like they don't trust me" From there you can ask more questions and offer some empathy.
Providing feedback. Can help gain more understanding
How do I do that? Reflection through paraphrasing such as "What I'm hearing is, it really upset you when she said that" or "it sounds like you're saying, you didn't feel appreciated when she said that" Asking questions to clarify certain points is not bad, and can help.
How do I do this? "What do you mean when you say, this" or "is this what you mean?"
Lastly, a judgement free mentality! Treat the person how you would like to be treated. And remember you matter! If you need to step away, take a break or get support of your own go ahead! You're just as important as everyone here x
You've made it! Here's a self care doggo
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