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Inappropriate work behaviour?
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Smol BeanPosts: 666 Incredible Poster
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So I still have to work even though it’s the apocalypse and all that, but unfortunately I have to work with my mum. We don’t get along.
She seems to be constantly trying to waste my time by getting me to do all the jobs she doesn’t want to do herself. And when I explain that actually I’m busy and the boss has asked me to finish this and that she will say “you wouldn’t say you were busy if I was the boss”
anyway, to get her to leave me alone I usually just do what she’s asked then get back to my actual responsibilities which I then don’t finish on time!!! I mean she wouldn’t try to force me if I was any other employee here! She just enjoys trying to have some kind of stupid power over me because she’s never had any during the rest of my life, I moved out at 17 and she openly admits she never spent any time with me as a kid.
She also doesn’t call me by my name, in front of everyone she continues to say I’m her child. I applied and I passed the interview, I’m not working there because of her!! So constantly telling everyone that feels like a spit in the face of all my hard work. Also it means all the other people here treat me differently once they find out I’m her kid, they suddenly act like I can’t do anything unless they ask her first. We have the same qualifications!!!! And they always ask me where she is, like they will come find me to ask where she’s working!! It’s so bloody stupid!
anyway, to get her to leave me alone I usually just do what she’s asked then get back to my actual responsibilities which I then don’t finish on time!!! I mean she wouldn’t try to force me if I was any other employee here! She just enjoys trying to have some kind of stupid power over me because she’s never had any during the rest of my life, I moved out at 17 and she openly admits she never spent any time with me as a kid.
She also doesn’t call me by my name, in front of everyone she continues to say I’m her child. I applied and I passed the interview, I’m not working there because of her!! So constantly telling everyone that feels like a spit in the face of all my hard work. Also it means all the other people here treat me differently once they find out I’m her kid, they suddenly act like I can’t do anything unless they ask her first. We have the same qualifications!!!! And they always ask me where she is, like they will come find me to ask where she’s working!! It’s so bloody stupid!
She’s so unprofessional! And when I try and tell her she’s inappropriate she will just says I’m being silly. I want to report her but she’s been there longer and I don’t want to cause a fuss.
Next time she calls me by my old name I’m getting a deed poll and shoving it in her face. -_- she’s always telling me what i already know, like what my jobs are, even when I am clearing already doing them. She doesn’t do that to anyone else. Like thanks but I can read get on with your own work for once.
I like my job, but I can’t stand working with her. I don’t usually have too but our responsibilities have changed because of covid
Anyway, I have to work with her again this morning and I’m dreading it. I have no idea what to do.
Anyway, I have to work with her again this morning and I’m dreading it. I have no idea what to do.
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I really don’t think I can’t talk to my mum about it, When I told her I had anxiety she started shouting about how it wasn’t her fault and why did I have to do this to her and why couldn’t I ‘just snap out of it’. She grew up with loads of siblings and is very competitive, if anyone ever compliments me at work she will find some way to make it about her. Another employee made a small comment and said I was ‘stronger that I looked’ and she started going on and on about how I was only like that because I was part of her family, She said ‘they’re only strong because I’m their mum’ It was really embarrassing how she went on for about 5mins about it. Now other employees don’t talk to me when she’s around because she does weird stuff like that whenever I’m doing a good job.
Just to clarify, you've not talked to your mum about her behaviour in the world before, but you have talked about something else personal and she didn't respond well?
I can see why you wouldn't want to discuss something like this with your mum, especially with how she has reacted before. From what I understand, from what you say it sounds like how she behaves is having an impact on your work and sometimes on how your other colleagues interact with you.
You mention that you are unsure about speaking to your manager because you haven't been working there for as long as your mum and you don't have any proof. What is your relationship with your manager like? Do they seem like the type of boss that would listen to your concerns?
I just asked her manager to put me on the list instead, he instantly said yes. But I felt bad having to go round her back, I’d feel bad going around any colleges back like that.
It doesn’t help that I’m 10 years younger than everyone and I don’t look my age so everyone takes one glance at me and assumes I’m some Stereotype teenager.
Maybe if she actually took the time to get to know me she'd have something positive to say. Instead she forced me out at seventeen and now realises almost 6 years later that she knows absolutely nothing about my life. So she makes crap up instead. Ive told her its not my first job, but she still keeps telling people, I've told her its demeaning and by saying that she's calling all my other accomplishments meaningless. But she just won't shut up. Ive literally avoided talking to her as much as I can but she still finds me at work just to say some new stupid and ignorant crap. -_-
Sorry for ranting, I just can't focus because that little voice goes "what's the point of trying to do anything - its not a 'proper job'"