Dunno how to move on

Former Member

Hiya,
Kinda new at this just feel so alone right now as a couple months ago in January I broke up with my first relationship ever after coming out of an abusive living situation. 
I loved him with all my heart and still do but I said and did some awful things I'm not perfect, but it was only after we broke up I had mates coming to me saying he had cheated on me for 6 out of the 9 month relationship we had with his ex. I had my suspicions but chose to ignore them cause I love and believed him. Just don't know what to do as I miss him so much and the moments we would have 😭
Thanks for reading sorry so sad just need to speak I suppose 
Hugs 
Hollie x

Former Member

Hi @Past User 

Sending you big hugs - break ups are never easy especially when you find out that your partner was cheating. I think it's good to allow yourself to be upset - often when people break up it feels like a sense of grieving for that person who was a big part of your life so I think it's totally normal to feel this way. I know it's not always the most helpful advice to receive but I do really think that time is the biggest healer

We do have some articles on The Mix about dealing with break ups which you might find helpful:
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/relationships/how-do-i-get-over-a-break-up-4176.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/single-life-and-dating/accepting-its-over-3185.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/looking-after-yourself/how-football-forums-helped-me-get-over-a-broken-heart-6664.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/single-life-and-dating/mending-a-broken-heart-3184.html

There's also a couple specifically here about being cheated on:
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/relationships/i-was-cheated-on-4479.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/relationships/moving-on-from-a-cheating-partner-6707.html