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My Dream?

in Work & Study
Hey so for obvious reasons I've had quite a lot of alone time recently and it has made me really consider something that I wouldn't usually - my 'dreams'.
If you ask practically anyone older than you for advice for the future the most common reply is 'just follow your dreams'. As romantic as this prospect is, I find being told this kind of patronising as I don't have a dream.
Of course, I have some vague ambitions like going to uni and starting a family, but I wouldn't class these as my dream. I'm quite a logical and unimaginative person so I find it hard to even consider aiming for something that is very unrealistic.
Lots of people have dreams to be a singer or a doctor and they say it with such certainty as though they have never considered any other paths in life, perhaps because they have a natural passion or talent. But for me the problem is I am pretty mediocre in all fields; I'm not really terrible at anything but there is nothing that I am particularly good at. I am afraid that if I keep going like this I will miss opportunities to gain expertise in a field that I am genuinely interested in so I want to decide as soon as possible. For example, they say to be a great dancer it helps to start young
So that brings me to why I'm writing this. There must be loads of people who feel like me; people who were or still are unable to find their calling in life. So I was wondering if anyone could offer any advice on realising your dream? Or share a story of how you knew you found what you want to aim for in life?
thanks ! x
If you ask practically anyone older than you for advice for the future the most common reply is 'just follow your dreams'. As romantic as this prospect is, I find being told this kind of patronising as I don't have a dream.
Of course, I have some vague ambitions like going to uni and starting a family, but I wouldn't class these as my dream. I'm quite a logical and unimaginative person so I find it hard to even consider aiming for something that is very unrealistic.
Lots of people have dreams to be a singer or a doctor and they say it with such certainty as though they have never considered any other paths in life, perhaps because they have a natural passion or talent. But for me the problem is I am pretty mediocre in all fields; I'm not really terrible at anything but there is nothing that I am particularly good at. I am afraid that if I keep going like this I will miss opportunities to gain expertise in a field that I am genuinely interested in so I want to decide as soon as possible. For example, they say to be a great dancer it helps to start young
So that brings me to why I'm writing this. There must be loads of people who feel like me; people who were or still are unable to find their calling in life. So I was wondering if anyone could offer any advice on realising your dream? Or share a story of how you knew you found what you want to aim for in life?
thanks ! x
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I think this is a great thread idea, because whilst we are here to support you I think it will also help a lot of other people in your position. So thank you for making this
Firstly, I think the most important thing to remember is, as @Mike said, you're not against a clock. There is no rush to figure out your calling - lots of people go through various different routes/careers until they find what is for them and that's absolutely okay
We are actually doing a module at university right now where we have to make a reflective portfolio about our calling, including what we have done to help us get towards it and our next steps to achieve it. And like you, I started off by feeling really quite overwhelmed as honestly I don't know what my calling is. But the way that I approached it is by looking more at the general skills that I think I have (and it's okay if you think your skills are mediocre at the moment as there is always time to grow), things that I feel fulfilled from and also just had a think about general comments that people have made about me. For example, I've had a few friends say that I'm good at giving advice. I feel fulfilled from helping out on the boards here and at my other volunteer well-being based roles, and I think a skill of mine is empathy which is often required for advice based roles. So I'm exploring supporting people with their psychological wellbeing/mental health as a very broad 'calling' - starting with a big broad space which I hope throughout the years I can explore in more depth to find what my calling actually is.
So I'm wondering if that might be a useful task for you as well, taking the pressure away from figuring out your calling and just looking very very broadly at your likes and dislikes and going from there?
I really hope this helps. Best of luck and we are always here to chat through any thoughts or ideas that you may have!