i want to move school

Former Member

ive asked my mum before and she asked why, i said it was because i didnt like the school and it was, i had friends then, i talked to alot of people, i was doing quite good, she said no because i was doing alright. i want to move fr this time, i dont have any friends, i physically feel sick walking about the place and i dont talk to anyone at all, i sit myself at break and go home for lunch. im scared to ask her because i dont want to tell her any of that and even if i manage to theres the chance of not getting accepted into the school and if i do, i think i have anxiety, social anxiety at that which will make it hard for me to talk to people like it does in the school im in now. so i fear 3 things, asking my mum, not getting accepted and it just turning out like now just worse because the other school has double the amount of pupils mine has.

Former Member

Hey there @Past User this sounds like a tough situation to be in, a lot of people struggle in school from time to time so it's understandable that you're feeling bad at the moment. Having to cope with social anxiety while in school sounds like it would be especially difficult so I'm glad you're talking about it here and looking for help.

You mentioned that you're scared to ask your mum if you could move schools, have you considered trying to talk to her about your problems and looking for a different kind of solution? I don't know what other things you've tried but there might be ways for you to deal with your anxiety and maybe improve your situation at school. Have you spoken to your mum or maybe your GP about your anxiety before?

Former Member

hey @Riley ive not spoke to anyone about my anxiety before. i usually take a walk or listen to music but im injured just now so i try not walk too much and in class im not allowed to listen to music so yeah

Former Member

christinaj123 said:

hey @Riley ive not spoke to anyone about my anxiety before. i usually take a walk or listen to music but im injured just now so i try not walk too much and in class im not allowed to listen to music so yeah

Hey Christinaj123!

I have anxiety and, I'm not at school anymore, but when I was I also wanted to move schools. I truly believed that starting over again would give me the opportunity to leave my anxiety behind.

Like you, my mother would not allow me to move schools so I began the process of accepting my situation. This was not easy but I chose to talk to my school about how I was feeling and they were very open to supporting me!

By the time I finished school I learned that it wasn't the school environment that was the problem, it was my longing to get away from my anxiety and being forced to stay in the anxious situation has helped me learn to cope with my anxiety. 

If you can't leave the environment, then use this as an empowerment to grow as a person and develop the coping skills you need to make it through!

Stay strong,
Eleanor 

Siena

Heyy!

i hear you - its really hard when you want something but there are fears. It shows control and indepenadance of your side to be thinking about this and i feel like people should appeciate that and let us make out own chioce esp when younger. 

When i dont know what to do cause im scared of something if say it. I make a list of pros and cons of the outcomes of what i want and the other chioces i have. Written it down can make your fears seem worth it and to try it. Your mum might be really understanding. 

What happened to the friends you used to have if dont mind me asking? 

I hope this goes okay for you. No matter what you decide and were here to listen