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Why can’t I enjoy sexual pleasure!
Hi! I’m a 24 year old female (very nearly 25) and have been sexually active since the age of 15/16. I’ve had about 13 sexual partners in my life and I’ve never enjoyed/experienced pleasure with any of them.. this includes foreplay and intercourse! I feel like I’m so abnormal and It has driven me insane. It has had a huge effect on my mindset in the last 3/4 years. Masturbation is the only way I can enjoy pleasure which is extremely unfulfilling, is there something physically wrong with me?! I can get aroused when it comes to kissing but once it goes any further it’s like my body just switches off.. i am sure it could well be a mind block as I do get very nervous and I am always concerned about not being good enough/not delivering in bed. I am also awful at communicating and can’t seem to be honest with a partner when I am just not enjoying the sex! Which makes me feel very silly as I know communication is key. I feel seriously alone and have never told anyone this as I find it really embarrassing. The older I get the less hope I have and the more insecure I feel. When I go out drinking I can start to feel low really easily as I feel like no boys looks at me/would be interested. I am so desperate to change this and would truly appreciate any advice from anyone!! X