Don’t be afraid you can say hello

One-in-a-millionOne-in-a-million Posts: 422 Rampant Poster
so after a hard days work last week I got on the bus and just wanted to get home and chill. An elderly lady got on the bus and sat by me.

she was quite for a few minutes and Without thinking I said “Hi how are you?”
She seemed a bit timid when I spoke but it struck a conversation on pretty much everything the weather, how she went shopping, what I did for my job and pretty much just a random conversation about anything.

after a while she smiled and said something that was like a punch to the stomach “you are the only person I have spoken to this week thank you.”

I can’t tell you how much I had to fight back the tears. To hear anyone say they haven’t spoken to someone in god knows how long is heartbreaking! 

What’s even more sad is that fact she seemed frightened of me when I spoke. Has the majority of our generation become so ignorant that saying a simple “hello” scares the older generation?

to be honest a lot (not all) of what I see these day sometimes scares me from seeing alcoholism and drug addictions on the street to seeing younger people swear and shouting abuse to each other it really does over power those who are like me and probably like a lot of you guys who are genuine people.

I just think it’s so sad. So whenever I’m on the bus now and an elderly person sits next to me I try my best to give a smile that says “Don’t be afraid, you can say hello to me.” and if they want to talk I can spare my time on the bus it’s not like I’m going anywhere! 

I’m sure you can spare 10 minutes to listen to an older person talk, even if it’s just a random conversation you might be the first or only person that has spoken to them for a while. But it can really restore the faith in the elderly that there is still good in the world.


  • ClaraOswaldClaraOswald TardisPosts: 51 Miniposter
    That's really sweet!

    I do understand what you are saying, even the most kind young people swear or look at their phones and it puts people off. We should definitely do this more! How would / did you start the conversation because I wouldn't know what to say?!

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  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,118 Fanatical Poster
    I must say usually it's the other way round for me, I sit on the bus and don't say anything and the old folk talk to me!

    It must be really lonely for them, when they can't use technology the same way we can to communicate, or be physically able to go outside, for some of them all they have might be the paper and BBC 1.

    Talk to old people if you can, it can make a difference to them but you also might learn something about local history- I've heard of when we used to have mines and we had a big mining disaster, how our houses were all fields where they used to have searchlights and anti-aircraft guns, how a bomber crashed down the road and the police and the army came to stop people trying to take bits of the wreck as a souvenir, how we used to have a tram that went up our high street and how the co-op used to be the pictures and that trailers used to show after the film and not before.

    Their world was different to ours, and at their age they exist often without the comforts of familiar faces and familiar places. We should do our best to respect that, and to keep them from loneliness, and hope the next generations extend that to us when we get old. :smile:
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  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 4,359 Uber Poster
    edited June 12
    Thats really nice. Thanks for sharing. 😊😊😊

    Hate to be depressing just honest.
    Generalising people by generations never work. (Not saying your post is about that). But the older generation can be just as rude as the younger generation. I remember some rude older person being very rude to me and idek why. And not just younger generation and its not even just the older generation who are lonely. But yeah just like younger generation some old people are lovely. Just wanted to point that out since ive seen lovely older generation and younger but opposite too

    My point being - talk to anyone not just older people. I remember once i was soo lonely and soo suicidal on a bus (like i was literally planning my death in my head) and this young man was just speaking to me for ages and it was great distraction as well as made me think there are friendly people. & just made me calmer then where my mind was. 

    I think i may be too shy to do it though
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck OxfordshirePosts: 223 The Mix convert
    When I first read this I actually started to cry because it's really sad to hear that, generally if someone want to talk on the bus I will talk to them, 

    Once I was on an bus from my village to reading which is about an 1hour and 30mins, and their was an group of elderly gentlemen which all their train spotting stuff, for the whole journey we was all sat at the back and they was telling me all the old storys of what britsh rail was like (British rail, reference to 1950 when the rail network was awful) and I can easily say that was one of my most enjoyable bus journey I've had,

    I find it's more the elderly generation I will talk to because I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to someone in their 30 or 40, I suppose that's just me 
  • CarolineVCarolineV Posts: 90 Moderator
    This is so lovely!

    I travel by train a lot and always try to talk to people, I've heard some amazing stories. My friend recently got chatting to a lady on the train, and afterwards received a card (she'd mentioned where we work) from the lady saying how lovely it was to meet her and she hoped they could stay in touch!
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck OxfordshirePosts: 223 The Mix convert
    CarolineV said:
    This is so lovely!

    I travel by train a lot and always try to talk to people, I've heard some amazing stories. My friend recently got chatting to a lady on the train, and afterwards received a card (she'd mentioned where we work) from the lady saying how lovely it was to meet her and she hoped they could stay in touch!
    Always talk to people on trains, especially the staff, it's great because you can get an really insight into the location that your going to, I love talking to people on trains 
  • One-in-a-millionOne-in-a-million Posts: 422 Rampant Poster
    It’s nice to hear your veiws guys of course like Shaunie said it goes both ways some elderly people can be just as rude and some younger people can just be as lonely so it is nice to say hello and speak to someone who may need someone to speak to. It wasn’t my intention to classify a certain group so sorry about that.
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