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Self consciousness

anyone else suffer from self consciousness ? Or does anyone have any tips. Especially to stand up to body shamers 
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  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 694 Incredible Poster
    Hey @Moonlight and welcome to the Mix <3

    For sure I suffer from self consciousness too, I think it's difficult not to when we're surrounded by people that make us feel inferior! This is a bit random but I actually found that I felt awful about myself when I had Instagram, so have deleted it and feel quite a lot better since. Do you mind talking about body shaming a bit more - are you going through that yourself? 

    - Lucy
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 372 Moderator
    edited June 2019
    Hi @Moonlight :)

    I suffer from self consciousness as well, and I've definitely been body shamed. I talked about it in detail in a post here: https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/3594567/vo5-summer-of-love-series-body-shaming#latest 

    Last week on the Relationships board, we at The Mix teamed up with VO5 to create threads on body image. I think there's a lot of valuable information and support to be found there, if you're interested. <3
  • Han93Han93 EnglandPosts: 173 The Mix convert
    edited June 2019

    Hi @Moonlight

    Yep, I get self-conscious all the time!

    Have you read The Mix's article about Body Kindness - it's a really great read and helped me think about my body more positively instead of being ashamed/embarrassed by it: https://www.themix.org.uk/your-body/appearance/why-we-all-need-more-body-kindness-in-our-lives-32249.html

    There's also one here specifically about Body Shaming which you might find useful: https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/body-image-and-self-esteem/how-to-handle-body-shaming-32324.html


  • Butterfly23Butterfly23 Miniposter England Posts: 817 Incredible Poster
    Hey <3 

    Yeah, you are not alone in feeling self-conscious as this is something that I frequently struggle with, when we are around people who make us feel unworthy or lower our self esteem I can understand its hard to think of yourself in a positive way.

    Have you tried using affirmations before? These can help you to overcome negative body image and feelings through reading/saying positive statements to yourself every day :) You can make your own or find some from online, there are loads of great ones! 

    The mix definitely have some good information and discussions regarding this subject, as linked on the above messages. Feel free to let us know how you get on with these ideas,

    Butterfly x 
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 7,344 The Mix Elder
    edited June 2019
    I dont have much to add in terms of how to handle it.
    So i will say I personally think everyone battles with feelings of being self concious even people you probably wouldnt think, do   And thats what i try to remember. I think everyone has something theyre self consious about at times and wish could change. & because no ones is what people view as  "perfect" and we all just have to accept every single person including ourselves and accept everything and embrace it as just makes us more invidiual 
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  • HannahHannah Posts: 10 Fast Newbie
    Hey, 
    Sure! I think everyone has their own insecurities and things that they feel self conscious about - it's a completely normal thing for anyone to think from time to time, and we shouldn't beat ourselves up about this! It's important to remember this too, you are definitely not alone in your feelings with this. We need to learn to embrace our insecurities and not constantly put ourselves down for things we can't change. 
  • GemmaGemma Posts: 67 Moderator
    Hey @Moonlight
    I agree that everyone has some of their own insecurities which they feel self conscious about. The real struggle is not letting them define who we are as people or stop us from doing what we want or enjoy. It's easier said than done but sometimes a helpful thing to remember with body shamers is that their opinion is not important and isn't a reflection of who you really are. 
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