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TW - childhood memories
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Tomorrow I’m taking my little girl to a place I once shared memories with my grandad (non biological). He was my safest memory, he died when I was 11 years old, I’d have been 8 the last time I visited this place with him, before my mother got with her new partner at that time.
Theres a beach, the sea, everything will be as I remember it, we are staying in the same cottage I stayed in as a child.
My little girl is looking forward to spending her birthday on the beach, on our holidays (as she calls it). I am feeling deep/lost in sadness, it’s overwhelming. My grandad died and bad things started happening to me. He is the only person I’ve ever grieved for, aside if myself, my old best friend in this world until my daughter was born. I thought about him often whilst bad things were happened to me, he was my strength, but he also abandoned me, how it felt, I’ve spent so long feeling angered by it. I was always told that people go when it’s their time but, it wasn’t his time, I was heartbroken, lost and from that nothing that happened could be any worse than that, or could it? I felt very alone, because I was alone, my mother was out drinking all of the time, was in an abusive relationship herself, she just didn’t have the time.
I need a friend now, I cannot reach out to anyone, they wouldn’t understand me, I’d want to disappear for feeling so needy!
Sometimes your feel on your own, that’s grief, because you are on your own.
Theres a beach, the sea, everything will be as I remember it, we are staying in the same cottage I stayed in as a child.
My little girl is looking forward to spending her birthday on the beach, on our holidays (as she calls it). I am feeling deep/lost in sadness, it’s overwhelming. My grandad died and bad things started happening to me. He is the only person I’ve ever grieved for, aside if myself, my old best friend in this world until my daughter was born. I thought about him often whilst bad things were happened to me, he was my strength, but he also abandoned me, how it felt, I’ve spent so long feeling angered by it. I was always told that people go when it’s their time but, it wasn’t his time, I was heartbroken, lost and from that nothing that happened could be any worse than that, or could it? I felt very alone, because I was alone, my mother was out drinking all of the time, was in an abusive relationship herself, she just didn’t have the time.
I need a friend now, I cannot reach out to anyone, they wouldn’t understand me, I’d want to disappear for feeling so needy!
Sometimes your feel on your own, that’s grief, because you are on your own.
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I can understand how losing someone and that grief process can really make you feel alone . I feel the same especially when visiting both of my nana favourite places or on anniversary like today was 5 years since my other nana died.
Im sorry I don’t have much to say but I just wanted to let you know I’m here and I know how alone grieving can make you feel, hopefully knowing your not the only one and that I’m here can help you feel abit less alone
Sending hugs 💜
Your grandad will always live in you and your daughter, so I always picture lost ones looking through my eyes, so it helps me to talk to them in my head, like 'thankyou for taking me to this amazing place, so I can share it with my girl. Thank you for all the memories you gave me' sometimes going back to old places can mean you can let go. I'm sure your Grandad would want you to be happy x