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"Be grateful for what you have"
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I'm really pissed off with people who make me feel bad about moaning and I should be grateful cuz others have worse situations than me and would love what I have. Like saying I'm lucky to have a family and a home when my parents and family and other people are forever telling me off and nagging me and having high expectations on me and get on my nerves, and saying they wish they'd get told off harshly by parents too if it means to do anything to have a family and a home to go to. Definitions of a "perfect life" differ from person to person, no one should be making me feel bad about ranting and being angry and unhappy no matter how bad their life is compared to mine. They're only saying that because they've never experienced such events before but once they do experience them they'll realise how really hateful it feels to be treated the way I do. Why should I be grateful when people especially my family are horrid to me and for other stuff I don't like, it's hateful to be grateful! I just want to move away from them and only see them occasionally and hardly have anything to do with anyone.
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I completely agree with you!
I think its important to be grateful for what we have and to recognise that in a lot of cases we are lucky, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't have the right to complain!
No matter who you're talking to, there will always be someone who is worse of than them.
I can hear how difficult your relationship with your family is, but well done for being brave enough to share this.
Take care
I totally agree. People will always tell you to be grateful and apppreciative of your life no matter how bad it gets, as a way of shutting down your very valid complaints. Pain isn't a competition. It literally doesn't matter if someone is experiencing something comparatively 'worse' to you- your problems deserve recognition.
I'm sorry that your relationship with your family isn't showing sign of improving but you're very strong to keep going. I know it's hard to stay positive but there are lots of people here to listen and support you
I don't know if this helps but I just want you to know that there's a lot of people here who can relate to you and empathise with your situation