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TW - Words
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Words have bad association to them, no matter how many times I try to write what is in my mind, whether it is talking through flashbacks in Counselling or from when I’ve told police previously the badness of words do not lessen, it is the association, bad memories about them affect me, not just ‘a word’ I cannot write them here now and when I hear of read them they have the same impact.
The words I cannot write make me feel ashamed, dirty, bad, naughty, scared, fearful/frightened, embarrassed, hurt, vulnerable.
I don’t expect anyone to understand but ‘just words, can trigger, take me back to where I don’t want to be
I’m sorry for not being normal
The words I cannot write make me feel ashamed, dirty, bad, naughty, scared, fearful/frightened, embarrassed, hurt, vulnerable.
I don’t expect anyone to understand but ‘just words, can trigger, take me back to where I don’t want to be
I’m sorry for not being normal
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My triggers have the same impact they did the first time i got triggered by it. I dont think that will change tbh. But what i have learnt is how i manage it after being triggered and do things to calm me
Everyone has different triggers, sometimes even the things that may seem very small to some can have massive impacts on others. Don't apologise for not being normal. You are normal, there is nothing you said out of the ordinary and there are many people who feel the same way.
Knowing your triggers is very useful and sometimes hard to discover so well done on finding them out. Highlighting what Shaunie said, there are ways to manage the effects of the triggers such as trying to calm yourself down. Have you discovered any coping mechanisms when you get triggered by words?
I think everyone gets triggered by things, so you are not alone in that. But I can imagine it’s difficult if its a word and you hear it in conversation unexpectedly, to have to go through all those feelings especially when you are least expecting it would be hard. As Shaunie and mags have suggested learning how to deal with these could help in these moments and hopefully make things a little bit better.
Ps normal is boring
Keep being you, big love
I am sorry that you feel like you're alone in this, that is not at all true. Words have meaning and impact and it is okay to feel those things. I can tell you that being triggered or affected by words, is not uncommon, in fact, sometimes I find myself reacting badly to certain words when they are directed to me, and often I feel like I lose control over my feelings. You do not need to apologise for who you are, or how you feel, and what does it even mean to be normal? None of us are normal, that is just a societal term meant to make us feel like we do not belong. But we are all different and there is no one way of thinking, believing, and behaving. Be true to yourself and that I promise you will make you the happiest!
Take care, and don't be afraid to be yourself!
I don’t know how to say what I want to say, thoughts and words are jumbled. I don’t know if talking helps but everything just feels impossible.
Sorry and thank you, your words do make sense.
Hi,
I just wanted to start off by saying that speaking about our feelings is one of the best things we can do to help ourselves, however it can often feel very difficult to do. So the fact you are sharing this with us is a really positive and courageous step; you really deserve to feel supported.
I really understand triggers can be scary things, but the fact you can identify such triggers is a great step towards getting the support you deserve. You also mentioned you are sorry for not being normal and I just wanted to let you know that there is no such thing as “normal”. Being yourself is absolutely the best thing you can be; you are not alone.
You’ve mentioned you don’t know how to say the things you want to say because the words are all jumbled. It seems like you are feeling quite overwhelmed, and it can be really difficult to talk about our feelings when we are feeling this way. I am wondering if you have ever tried writing your feelings down? Some people like to write a letter to themselves or to somebody they trust - even if they never share this letter. Or, you might find it useful to just write all of your feelings in a jumbled way on the page - that way you can physically see the words you want to say, and you could perhaps try and make sense of them in that way. How would you feel about this?
You are doing really well by talking about this. Take good care
Sorry to hear about your struggles. At first, it is quite difficult coping with flashbacks and learning what works for you but once you get a hang of it, it becomes so much easier.
I found this article from Mind quite useful when I struggled snapping out of flashbacks. Don't pay attention to the fact it's about PTSD nor start worrying whether you fit the criteria. I just thought the information on there might help you find ways to cope with the flashbacks.
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/self-care-for-ptsd/#.XMc03pNKiRs