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some advice please
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hi everyone im in a bit of a difficult situation. ive had a really difficult couple of years ive been surrounded by toxic people and that severely damaged my mental health ive been constantly unhappy. so ive freed myself from all that finally and I plucked up the courage recently to start a gym nearby in the hope of making new friends and i was introduced to a gorgeous guy just a year and a half younger than me by the receptionist in the gym. this guy is a self employed personal trainer and he asked me what.my.goals were. im a slim girl but i just have a few areas i would like to tone up and he offered to train with me in the gym and ofcourse i said yes! ive had training sessions with him a few times now and the more i train with him the more i get to know him and the more im becoming attracted to him. hes just so perfect in everyway and hes exactly what im looking for. but this is then giving me anxiety as im not sure what to do.. im not sure what the rules are on clients and personal trainers dating outside the gym. i would never say anything while training with him but i thought if my feelings progress further and when we eventually stop training when i reach my goals i would like to ask to get to know him outside of the gym.. i thought of leaving the gym if i feel this way as i wouldnt want to get him in trouble or ruin his repution or it start a whole load of shit. what should i do?
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Well done you for getting away from toxic people - takes a lot of courage to cut ties sometimes so just wanted to acknowledge that first
This sounds exciting!! To be honest I wouldn't worry too much about the 'rules' of clients and trainers dating as it's not really your responsibility but more his, and you can always have that conversation with him if you do go on a date. Have you thought about asking whether he would want to go out for a drink/lunch or something with you now... Or do you think you could? I just think that way you should find out pretty quickly that way if he isn't allowed to date clients!
- Lucy
Sounds like you have a good thing with the PT, and the idea of waiting until you've hit your goals before asking him out on a date sounds sensible. Not only because it gives you time to get to know him more but also because then you can fully focus on reaching your goals. Then once you've reached your goals anything else is an unexpected bonus!
Have you made any other friends at the gym???
I have just caught myself up with your thread and this all sounds very exciting! But at the same time I can really hear it's making you anxious. This is totally normal and I want you to know we are here for you
You mentioned you are feeling nervous about going to that class with him and I am wondering if you know what it is that makes you feel nervous about it?
It is really important for you to know that everybody goes through ups and downs when trying to reach their goals and that is completely okay. If you are really struggling you could perhaps speak to somebody else at the gym just for some advice with getting back on track; but honestly, I think do whatever makes you happy. If you need to take a more relaxed approach to your eating habits at the moment then that's absolutely fine - there is no rush and you will get there. Treat it like a marathon, not a sprint
It's not bad for you to be attracted to your PT. In fact, my friends who are a couple met in exactly that way! I understand it can be a confusing time for you, especially understanding the rules they might have, but I think take things one step at a time and soon enough things will start to make sense. This is an exciting time - and we are here for you x