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Should I tell my friend about a secret

Hi all !
So I'm sure some of you know my story by now but just a quick reminder, about 2 years ago, my girlfriend broke up with me because she believed I lied to her about my psychotic symptoms. I was at that time delusional about her, thus I believed that I lied myself, but I now realize, as the symptoms persist that I, in fact, did not. My girlfriend had at that time, I don't know about now, also psychotic symptoms. To read the full story, go see my other posts.
Now the dilemma is that my best (and only lol) does not know neither about my nor my ex's psychotic symptoms. When we broke up, my girlfriend told me that she wanted me not to tell anyone about her hallucinations and such. However, I know my friend is mature and respectful enough not to tell anyone about it. She has helped, and is, helping getting through the break up, I believe she deserves to know. However, respecting my ex's wishes is something very valuable to me, I don't think I have ever told anybody about somebody else's secrets. I both believe my ex deserves to keep the secret and my friend deserves to know about it.
What do I do ?
So I'm sure some of you know my story by now but just a quick reminder, about 2 years ago, my girlfriend broke up with me because she believed I lied to her about my psychotic symptoms. I was at that time delusional about her, thus I believed that I lied myself, but I now realize, as the symptoms persist that I, in fact, did not. My girlfriend had at that time, I don't know about now, also psychotic symptoms. To read the full story, go see my other posts.
Now the dilemma is that my best (and only lol) does not know neither about my nor my ex's psychotic symptoms. When we broke up, my girlfriend told me that she wanted me not to tell anyone about her hallucinations and such. However, I know my friend is mature and respectful enough not to tell anyone about it. She has helped, and is, helping getting through the break up, I believe she deserves to know. However, respecting my ex's wishes is something very valuable to me, I don't think I have ever told anybody about somebody else's secrets. I both believe my ex deserves to keep the secret and my friend deserves to know about it.
What do I do ?
“You must see with eyes unclouded by hate. See the good in that which is evil, and the evil in that which is good. Pledge yourself to neither side, but vow instead to preserve the balance that exists between the two.”
-Hayao Miyazaki
-Hayao Miyazaki
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-Hayao Miyazaki
Straight-up secrecy is a very difficult thing to deal with, and people have different views on it. For some people, it's a matter of never telling anybody, regardless of the who or the situation. For others, it's more about not losing control of that secret; they might be willing to tell somebody they trust, safe in the knowledge that person won't pass it on (at least not to anyone irresponsible).
Anyway, just wanted to add some extra thoughts and reassure you you're not a bad person if you do tell her. Glad things turned out well and that you found the solution you needed.