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Group Chat: Everything you need to know

The MixThe Mix The Mix HQPosts: 2,579 Staff Team
edited October 21 in Group Chat Announcements
Got an hour or two to kill? Want to get something off your chest? If you're inspired by the latest film release, would like some advice, or just in need of a good old rant about your day, come and join The Mix Group Chat.

What is group chat?
There are two main types of group chats on The Mix - Support Chat and General Chat (usually referred to as SC and GC). Support Chat is a place to give and get support from the group about anything on your mind, and General is a space to relax and have some fun.

Additionally, there are Support Circles every Tuesday. These sessions are a bit like Support Chat, but instead of everyone talking when they want to, each member of the group gets a specific amount of time to talk while everyone else listens and supports (a bit like how you might picture an AA meeting). These sessions usually have around five people, and you can sign-up to the next one here.

We sometimes run expert Q&As on certain topics, workshops, or other one-off sessions. Keep an eye on this forum to find out about those - they're usually announced at least a week in advance.

When is group chat open?
Group chats generally happen from 8-9:30pm Monday - Sunday and are open to anyone aged 13-25. You can find 'join' buttons for open rooms on this page, as well the schedule for the next two weeks. We post announcements in this forum every day to say what sessions are running that evening.

Are group chats moderated?
All sessions will have at least one moderator to help make sure things run smoothly. They're not expert advisers, and most of the support will come from the other community members in the space. Read this post to read more about the role of moderators in group chat.

What are the rules?
It's important to be aware of the chat guidelines before entering the chat room. These guidelines will help you get the most out of group chat, explain how everything works, and clarify what you can talk about.

Moderators have the ability to freeze or kick people who do not follow these guidelines. Freezing is basically a timeout (you can't send messages for a few minutes) and a kick will remove you from the session for that night.

If you're finding it hard to be around a particular member of the chat, you can mute them by hovering over their name and clicking the little sound icon. This means you won't see their messages. If you do this, please don't announce it as it can make people uncomfortable and cause speculation. Likewise, if you think someone has muted you, don't comment on it - it's not personal. Sometimes we all need to avoid certain conversation topics for our own wellbeing.

Can I give feedback about group chat?
Yes! We love feedback and it really helps make sure we're delivering the best service we can. You can give us feedback about group chat here. If you need to vent about something that happened in a session, you can do that here.

There is a guide on how to use group chat attached to this thread. If you're still unsure of something after giving that a read, feel free to ask the moderators in the chat or comment below. :) 

We're @Mike, @Connor, @Emma_, @Italia and @Ed_ - the staff team here at The Mix. We don't provide support via this account, but if you have any questions about the boards or need a hand finding your way around, feel free to drop us a message. Alternatively, you can head over to the Help Desk.
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  • GreenTeaGreenTea ☕🌻☕ MidlandsPosts: 9,095 Supreme Poster
    The feedback form wouldn't work. 

    The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal.     

    Astrid Alauda

  • The MixThe Mix The Mix HQPosts: 2,579 Staff Team
    GreenTea said:
    The feedback form wouldn't work. 
    Looks like we missed this one @GreenTea - sorry about that! The forms are working for us, but let us know if they still don't for you. :)

    Mike & the team
    We're @Mike, @Connor, @Emma_, @Italia and @Ed_ - the staff team here at The Mix. We don't provide support via this account, but if you have any questions about the boards or need a hand finding your way around, feel free to drop us a message. Alternatively, you can head over to the Help Desk.
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 2,648 Boards Champion
    @The Mix the link to the chat guidelines under 'what are the rules?' links you to the group chat announcements sub-forum instead of to the guidelines
    "Do, or do not, there is no try" <(•.•)>              
    Mike
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 2,648 Boards Champion
    Aidan said:
    @The Mix the link to the chat guidelines under 'what are the rules?' links you to the group chat announcements sub-forum instead of to the guidelines
    It works now :+1:
    "Do, or do not, there is no try" <(•.•)>              
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    edited April 13
    Why isn't this properly pinned? It's not at the top. People ask for the feedback form in chat when they use the boards and clearly (presumely) know it's here but just say it to make someone know they're going to feedback about them
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
    Jellyelephant
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    edited April 13
    (It's moved back now I've commented) it was on the second page
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • MikeMike Screen addict 🎮 LondonPosts: 2,916 Community Manager
    Are you looking on 'What's New' @Shaunie?

    Some discussions are pinned only in their forum and not in What's New, and some are pinned in both. It depends what the thread is but this one in particular is only pinned in Group Chat Announcements.

    We could change that, though, if people think it's worth a full pin. :)
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
  • BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Sunny ScotlandPosts: 3,535 Community Veteran
    I think it need to be pinned everywhere, as Shaunie said it would stop people for asking the feedback form just to let someone know there going to feedback about them...
    ' So I put a bullet where I shouda put a helmet, and I crash my car cause I wanna get carried away, that's why I'm standing on the overpass screaming at myself 'hey, I wanna get better''  
  • MikeMike Screen addict 🎮 LondonPosts: 2,916 Community Manager
    Cool, makes sense to me. I've pinned this in the feed view, along with the community guidelines.

    If anyone isn't keen on this change for whatever reason, let us know in this thread. We can change tack if the consensus changes or people find it annoying or whatever. :)
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    edited May 27
    I dont like the use of trigger warning. It tells people this may be triggering. So you prepare yourself. But youre suppose to prepare yourself for the whole chat as anything could be triggering to someone. Weather the way its worded for them makes it more triggering for them as all interpret differently or cause had similar experience or just one word could trigger someone. People writingn trigger warnings or being told to write them are completly pointless because i dont want everything else to seem "none triggering" and like you dont need to prepare yourself. When you do
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • GreenTeaGreenTea ☕🌻☕ MidlandsPosts: 9,095 Supreme Poster
    I personally find trigger warnings helpful, especially in support circle as users say there's a trigger warning and what the trigger could be  for example abuse.
    Allows me to step back if I feel the need to 

    The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal.     

    Astrid Alauda

  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    edited May 27
    But many newbies who come won't even know to put trigger warning but in guidelines so they could say anything and you may not of prepared yourself cause no trigger warning. And not in guidelines to put a trigger warning
    I personally see the guidelines as a trigger warning in its self. People are coming here cause they're struggling i expect a lot of sadness that's triggering in self and upsetting. So i expect sadness in many forms from many things before coming
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • independent_independent_ Resident Coffee Addict ScotlandPosts: 5,238 Part of The Furniture
    This is interesting because I can see both sides @Shaunie and @GreenTea. If something is very triggering to a lot of people I can see where a trigger warning would be helpful. There are some topics, such as self-harm, suicide, abuse of any kind, discussion of eating, etc which are a trigger to many people and therefore a trigger warning is useful on those ones.

    However many of us have different triggers which might not be on the wider list of common triggers. So I also think it’s good to always be prepared in SC for something you read to be triggering, especially if you have a numbber of different triggers.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    edited May 27
    Yeah theres lots of main triggers like suicide, abuse, eating disorders, self harm, death, which is something most users struggle with atleast one main thing. And a lot of people talk about those main triggers And no one says triggering warning everytime they comment on it if that makes sense. Plus you could just come into the the chat and realise oh someones speaking about abuse. But they warned everyone before hand thats what theyll be speaking about but you joined later so didnt see that warning. If makes sense 

    as long as within guidelines i dont think anyone should feel the need to write trigger warning 
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    edited May 27
    Also i thought this was really interesting
    but ive said the same things. Most of the time i said it without a trigger warning. But the first time i wrote it with a trigger warning everyones suddenly was triggered because theyre feeing like theyre suppose to be cause making it a build up. And make it a big deal but its within guidelines. Cause all stArt making notes in head as why it is triggering and start imaging it more. Its like "warning theres a puppy in there" everyones like shit why is that a warning than imagine all bad things more rather than just reading it for what it is. "Theres a puppy in there". Thats just my opinion anyway probs makes no sense
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • MikeMike Screen addict 🎮 LondonPosts: 2,916 Community Manager
    edited May 27
    Something being made more of a 'thing' when marked as triggering is an interesting concept.

    @Shaunie you're right in that people should ideally come to Support Chat ready to be around heavy discussions, as a general rule. That said, it feels sensible to encourage as much empathy and consideration for others as possible. If someone is about to say something quite intense but not strictly against guidelines (e.g. if it's a less common trigger), it makes sense to give others a heads up so that others in the room can take any precautions they need to take for self-care and it doesn't catch them off-guard. As @independent_ said, there's balance to be had between those two things. It won't be perfect.

    From a moderation perspective, using trigger warnings is something we always encourage but it's not something we'll pull people up on for not doing. Long as you're within the guidelines, it's personal choice what you do beyond that and these things can be super difficult to judge.

    It's also worth noting that some things you say might make others feel triggered in some chats but not others. That's partly because each chat has a different set of people in it, and also because the mindset of people will change from night to night. What's triggering depends on the person reading it. Reactions and vulnerabilities can change, and it doesn't mean you need to change what you say. :)
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
    independent_
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    Oooh i see now thanks
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • birdbird Posts: 16 Settling in
    Hey, I've spoken vaguely to people close to me about topics that have come up in General Chat, nothing identifiable, just like "we were talking about [x] in a group chat that I go to". Is this alright or should I avoid bringing up anything altogether? I'm really sorry if I've broken any rules
    Aim high in life, but watch out for flying boxes
  • Kasa2103Kasa2103 Posts: 4,324 The Mix Elder
    @The Mix There is a comment for you from @bird
    Everyone is special in their own way. We make each other strong (we make each other strong.) We're not the same. We're different in a good way. Together's where we belong. We're all in this together. Once we know. That we are. We're all stars. And we see that. We're all in this together. And it shows. When we stand. Hand in hand. Make our dreams come true.
    bird
  • Ed_Ed_ Posts: 464 Community Manager
    Hey @bird

    First up, welcome to the boards, glad to see you have found chat helpful and hope that you find the boards equally useful :3

    It's an interesting question, confidentiality is a really important part of chat, and in terms of our chat guidelines, they say:

    Group chat is an anonymous place – I won’t repeat anything I hear in chat elsewhere and I won’t share personal contact details in the chat room.

    So it's really important that we don't share specifics that could identify somebody on here, either to those that may know them, or for people to be able to find their profile on here from info that was shared. Sometimes, things that may seem really small can be identifying to the right person, and with anonymous communities, we can never be certain how connected we are to people offline. 

    That being said, we do want people to be able to communicate to other people in their support network how The Mix is helping them, and so speaking in general about topics that are discussed is fine. For example, the following is highly unlikely to out somebody through their experiences or through something they said:

    "I found The Mix support chats really helpful in talking through self harm" or "We were talking about this film in this group chat I have been using, and there were some interesting points about the film that I hadn't thought of before"

    It's definitely good to speak about these things in as general terms as possible, and try to centre them on our experiences of chat where possible. It sounds like the examples you have given are fine and we appreciate you checking in on this :+1:

    Also, thanks @Kasa2103 for flagging this with us too :3

    "Don't let them paint you gray. They're gonna see you're somebody, somewhere, someday. Don't ever let them take your playful heart away. Oh you're somebody nobody could replicate" ~ Roo Panes
    birdStarlightindependent_
  • birdbird Posts: 16 Settling in
    Thank you for the reply @Ed_, that certainly makes sense and I'll keep it in mind :)
    Aim high in life, but watch out for flying boxes
  • independent_independent_ Resident Coffee Addict ScotlandPosts: 5,238 Part of The Furniture
    @bird I just saw your question just now and I must admit I wondered about this too and I’ve been using group chat for a long time ahaha so really glad you asked this.

    I’ve briefly mentioned chat similarly to how you have before to people - folk know I use the internet and I use it quite a lot so most just dismiss it as some other thing that I’ve done online.

    There is one person (my partner) who knows I use group chat and what it is and that sort of thing, but it took me a long time in the relationship even to tell him lol. But other than that one exception I try not to mention it because yes it’s a safe space to me with no one from my offline life in it.

    That’s just my insight into that.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Bpd bitch ✌🏼 Posts: 792 Part of The Mix Family
    Just to throw my two cents in regarding trigger warnings. In the general sense I think they are useful like on the boards perhaps. It helps know which threads to avoid if I don’t feel up to reading about a particular topic some days. I do feel it is pointless in group chat though just purely because say bob posts 

    “TW I hate rabbits” 

    by the time I’ve seen the TW I most of the time have seen the comment anyway so it doesn’t seem like there is any point. I do kinda agree with shaunie that we should expect more “heavy” topics in a support chat though. 
    The sun will rise and we will try again 
  • magpiemagpie Posts: 3 Newbie
    edited August 12
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  • Kasa2103Kasa2103 Posts: 4,324 The Mix Elder
    https://client.chatwee.com/popout/599c194bbd616d8b43891808 Click this and the rooms should open at 8pm unless there are technical difficulties or if it is group chat break (3 times a year where group chats are stopped for a week or two to give the mods a break as the mods are mainly volunteers.)
    Everyone is special in their own way. We make each other strong (we make each other strong.) We're not the same. We're different in a good way. Together's where we belong. We're all in this together. Once we know. That we are. We're all stars. And we see that. We're all in this together. And it shows. When we stand. Hand in hand. Make our dreams come true.
  • EleanorEleanor Living the Zen life 🧘🏼‍♀️ Posts: 1,439 Wise Owl
    Oh @lucyking200 you will have to message The Mix about that
    Alis propriis volat 
    Liam
  • EleanorEleanor Living the Zen life 🧘🏼‍♀️ Posts: 1,439 Wise Owl
    edited August 11
    @lucyking200 Ah sorry about that :( They should be able to explain why you cant get in 
    Alis propriis volat 
  • Kasa2103Kasa2103 Posts: 4,324 The Mix Elder
    @The Mix Issue above.
    Everyone is special in their own way. We make each other strong (we make each other strong.) We're not the same. We're different in a good way. Together's where we belong. We're all in this together. Once we know. That we are. We're all stars. And we see that. We're all in this together. And it shows. When we stand. Hand in hand. Make our dreams come true.
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,273 An Original Mixlorian
    Kasa2103 said:
    @The Mix Issue above.
    Thanks hope they can sort it when I’m just back from break 
    Was you on a break for being banned? Sometimes they think they have lifted the ban after the break but they haven’t. Best to message the mix. 
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
    lucyking200
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 2,648 Boards Champion
    @lucyking200 I think it's smart to PM The Mix if you're unsure about anything :)
    "Do, or do not, there is no try" <(•.•)>              
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