People not understanding with 18 being the adult age

Former Member

Hello my name is Shola and I am feeling so angry with this world right now and with people not understanding properly that 18 is actually the adult age and not 25 years old in most countries. I really want everyone to understand more and accept that 18 is the adult age and that 18-25 year olds should be allowed to be with or around other adults much older than them without anyone saying things about it and also they should not have to be put with people their age all of the time as it really does my heading and angers me even more because they are not kids anymore they are just adults now and should be allowed to make their own decisions in which age group they want to be around with. I really want to be able to do something like set up my own organisation, social group or set up my own friendship and dating agency in Birmingham so I would be able to find more easier ways to make and find older friends and be able to find an older boyfriend in their mid or late 20s or even early 30s. Also I would like to go to a university where there would be a lot more mature students over the age of 30 too.

Former Member

Hey Sholay! 

Age is an interesting thing as it often doesn't coincide with maturity, a young person can be mature than a older person. 

I don't feel there's much age discrimination in this country personally as once someone hits 18 they do whatever they want and I've not seen my friends affected by it or told they can't do something.

If you have dreams and want to start a social group and dating agency then go for it! 

I started a group for LGBT individuals when I was just 15 age really doesn't matter so don't let that affect owt. 

Some adults do get discriminated and treated like children often because they are immature or because that person is just mean. 

Even in older years you will come across bullies sadly it's a part of a life we all deal with. 

There is no guarantee of what age group there will be in the university you choose as its generally people fresh out college (19 to late 20s) 
But that's okay because a lot of people in uni are very mature for their age x

Former Member

Sorry Aidan but that is not very helpful and true in what you are saying because females stop developing at age 18 and males at age 21 so that is incorrect when you have said that the brain and body stops developing in the mid 20s when it really does not as I have had a previous carer say to me that the brain stops developing in the early 20s and also I have read that the brain and body stops developing in the late teens to early 20s. Also I don't like it when people comment and say something different in which are not very helpful and correct.

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Not all countries have maximum 'adult' ages, @Sholay09

Quoting ages in Spain which Sophie and I are registered residents, "Under Spanish law a person under 18 is considered as a child and always has all the protection derived from its status as a minor. A young person in Spain is between 15 and 24 years, persons aged 15 to 17 are children and young people, and 18 to 24 are young but already adults."

Except people grow up at varying ages. I was 16 when my doctor said I'd stopped growing physically, but emotionally I was still growing. Intellectually, we will always be learning new things, unless you happen to specialise in a particular subject at university and after a 5 year intensive course like my Candian friend, eventually gain a PhD.

I agree with @Past User when she said 'Age is an interesting thing as it often doesn't coincide with maturity, a young person can be mature than a older person.' That is so true of young Sophie.

I'm quite broad minded, really. Some young people such as Sophie grow in intellect much faster. She writes beautifully and walks with such grace and poise that some people think she's a ballerina. If they only knew she was 12...

I like that you want to start a social group. That is good, but of my experience with forums, they take a lot of maintaining. Making new and original topics can be difficult. Writing them to grab members' interests is quite an art. Whereas setting up a dating agency can cost money, though building on a pre-designed template with Wix is fun, you'll need to gather experience. One way of gaining that is doing a part-time job at a dating agency to gain experience. Online you'd need highly trustworthy staff to moderate. It will take a huge chunk out of your time.

Off-topic, I remember your posting somewhere of wanting for a child. I think that is so beautiful, but remember that children are hard work! At my home in England half my family are there with their kiddies, ages ranging between 2 years old and 14. The younger ones wake up early and race around, and at bedtime are little tykes. They play their mothers up. But I love our kids to bits. They may be a pain at times, but such a joy.

Back to topic, setting up your own social organisation means a lot of planning. My aunt Fiona says that potentially you are entrepreneurial in desire, but again it will take time and a lot of grit to stick at it.

Well, you made a jolly good topic. Good luck with where you're wanting to go!

Best wishes,

Mandy

Former Member

Sorry I flagged your post by spam Aidan I was just so upset and it is not like I did it for nothing but anyway I hope we can be friends and I can move forward so I don't end up getting upset too much.

Former Member

I'm glad you two can move on from this,  it's perfectly okay to get upset when someone has a different opinion to yours or gives you different advice,  but its important to remember he was just trying to help in his own way by providing information. 

The spam button is for spam posts only and should not be abused, anything else such as triggering content or a different opinion or fact that may upset you I believe should be taken up with a mod? 

Let's all move past it and continue to try and support each other  

Former Member

I already knew that the age for being an adult is actually 18 in the UK and most other countries including Spain in which you are from Floxy and in some countries 19,20 or 21. Also no country has the age of 25 for being an adult because that would be too high and quite stupid if any country was to have an adult age that high.

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Sholay09 said:

..... and I am feeling so angry with this world right now and with people not understanding properly that 18 is actually the adult age and not 25 years old in most countries.



Hey @Sholay09 not wishing to labour my point, but I already knew age 18 qualifies being an adult in the UK, but you did say 'and not 25 years old in most countries'  - which was the sole reason why I needed to clarify.

It may surprise you, but in fact, I am British. Many years ago, my family went out to Mallorca and took me with them, thereby making me legally resident of Spain. I'm au fait with the laws of the country and that of Mallorca.

Thank you for understanding.