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Age gap

Sholay09Sholay09 Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
edited August 2018 in Sex & Relationships
Hello I am 20 and my name is Shola. I am romantically interested in men in their mid to late 20s to early 30s. I am a bit curious to see whether if anyone on the mix here is in a relationship with someone of a little or large age difference like maybe 8 to 20 year age difference if so please comment on my discussion with yours and your partner's age as I am interested to hear about it, also please tell me how and where did you meet your partner as I am interested in that too as I would like to know some easier ways/tips for me to find an older man in their mid to late 20s to early 30s?


  • Sholay09Sholay09 Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    Ok thank you Aidan for helping me
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 0 Just got here
    There is a 9 year age gap between Ines and myself, but our love is strong just as we are strong for each other. She's been a good friend to my family and when we met, so we began, gradually, to fall in love. Except what I did not realise is though I could invite love, I could not dictate how, when, and where my love for Ines expressed itself, and it was a journey for her, an enlightenment and exciting for the both of us.

    Therefore, @Sholay90 you can choose to surrender to love or not, but in the end, love strikes like lightning: unpredictable and impossible to deny. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, postscript, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires. :)
      Anyway, 'Age is just a number. It’s totally irrelevant unless, of course, you happen to be a bottle of wine.'

    - Dame Joan Collins

  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,300 Skive's The Limit
    edited August 2018

    i agree what has been said above. But also wanted to add - as much as “age is just a number” - that there is no denying that there can be diffculties with age gap (not always) but like if theyre at different age they may want different things at different time compared to you. But then that can also be more about desires more than age. If makes sense. 

    Im sorry - not very helpful as im not in a relationship with someone older.
    Maybe you already have - but maybe if you google something like ‘dating older men’ you may find some experience through there or info.  Though im not sure. But id think most people meet older people through online dating.  But can always think about your interests and socialise more with that or think about where youd find 30 yr old men
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • whnlifegivesulemonswhnlifegivesulemons Posts: 1 Just got here
    There is 20 years between myself and my boyfriend. I love him completely but like the others have said, I’m not ignoring the fact that when I am 50 he’ll be 70 and that might not be easy. I might end up caring for him and if life goes the way of all things, I’ll be without him for about 20 years too! I have accepted this and knowing that he’s going to age before I’m ready, we just make sure we make the most of the time, even if that’s just watching a movie together, it doesn’t have to be anything amazing as long as we’re happy together. We make sure we don’t fight or argue over silly things and we’re open about everything. No matter how old you are, life is too short to be unhappy :)
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