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Mature students

Sholay09Sholay09 Birmingham, EnglandPosts: 99 Miniposter
Hello I have made some plans to go to university or another college in two years time for when I finish the college that I currently attend. I wanted to ask out of curiosity when I do go to university or another college when I am 22 in two years time about whether there would be students much older than me at college or university because I would like to meet some older friends who are in their late 20s and 30s and who are also middle aged at college or university as I want to be treated and seen more as an adult?

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  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 894 Incredible Poster
    edited August 2018
    Hey Sholay, 

    College wasn't for me; I never liked how they 'babied' you like you were still at school. From experience, nearly all college students are 16-19, with maybe one in thirty students being older than college age.

    University is very independent. I know someone who teaches nuclear materials at a uni, and says that students dont even have to go to the lectures since they can't make them attend. If a student succeeds or fails, it is only their own fault. I think you might like uni; you are more likely to find people a similar age to yourself, but the price of the independance comes with how quickly you have to mature and take responsibility for everything.

    You won't be treated more as an adult for hanging out with older people -in fact, you may even feel really immature in comparison to people who, frankly, have had more practise at life than yourself. But I'm sure you'll know that maturity really does not depend on age, I know plenty of pensioners who are reaallly off their rockers :joy:  You will be treated more as an adult, for not obsessing over trying to be like an adult- just be like you. : )

    Hope I gave some helpful (ish :joy: ) insight 
    Aidan
    Sholay09
  • LaineLaine Horse hugger Posts: 1,169 Fanatical Poster
    Being someone who matured quickly for their age when I was first at college I did want to be treated like an adult but I did there was no real to other than to well act like one,  people can change or influence that,  many of my friends weren't considered "mature" but I learned I could have fun with them and still be mature when the time came :)

    It does depend on whether it's college or university as for college the oldest I've seen is 19, and honestly compared to everyone else I met I felt most mature but that again didn't matter much as I could feel and be mature but my friends reminded me to have a laugh every now and then. 

    As for university there are definitely people who would be older than you but that doesn't grauntee maturity 

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    Sholay09
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 0 Noob
    Hi Sholay,

    Where I live and even when I was back in England, a lot more mature students work during the summer, then apply to college for autumn into winter and early spring and get treated with respect for their maturity of working hard to get good grades from their hard earned seasonal wages. The students act maturely, therefore are treated with respect, our student employees say. They have praised their college for being treated well the previous season. It may be different in Mallorca here, but our mature students have little gripe about their colleges and those they study with. Remember though that in every class of the semester there is always some prat acting up and behaving like a tool. They are everywhere, for such is life even college life and university. :/

    In the northern popular part of Mallorca and the southern reaches of Palma, a great many are mature students between ages 21 and 30. So I don't see why you can't be treated with maturity be it Spain, France or England. Therefore I don't see any obstacles preventing you from being treated as an adult. :)

    I'm driven by self doubt.
    Sholay09
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 3,440 Ultimate Poster
    Hey

    id say uni has more people who are older than in college.  A lot of young people in college as thats can be the step before uni. But there is obviously some older people in college aswell that you can always make friends. Id say that at both college and uni get treated like an adult and have to be quite indepenent. I hope that at the college youre at now that you get seen as an adult. Do what feel most comfortable for you and what you think will help you in terms of your education aswell, as can have other chances to meet older people

    All the best
    Kindness begins from the understanding that we all struggle.
    Sholay09
  • EyepatchEyepatch Posts: 378 Rampant Poster
    Hello, 

    I was a little older than people at my collage so was treated a bit differently, but this was also because of my actions. At uni I was treated like an Adult because I acted like one, students who mess around and don't focus are, in the eyes of tutors, childish. So they get treated less seriously. Just stay calm, do your work as best you can and talk to your tutors at uni using their names, be casual to them but also respectful. If they see you as an Adult they will treat you like one. It does take a bit of time as they need to get to know you first, and of course it really depends on your university and tutors themselves. 

    Good luck with which ever decision you go with. Keep in mind you could always have an interview with a uni and then ask to delay your place for a year. Meaning, if you pass the interview, you will have a confirmed spot next year. Going to the uni and meeting tutors could help too, keep an eye out for when uni's/collage's have open days so that you can look around. 

    :)
    "Sometimes we find ourselves stuck between choosing what is right, and what is easy." 
    Sholay09
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