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How do you know when you’re compromising too much in a relationship?

AifeAife Community Manager Posts: 2,920 Boards Guru

Hey everyone,

A healthy relationship is often built on a strong foundation of trust, commitment, and compromise. Part of this is about understanding that every person in a relationship will have different needs and desires, and that it’s important to make an effort to find out about those.

How do you know when you’re compromising too much in a relationship, and not doing what you want to do?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts!

- Aife
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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,301 Skive's The Limit
    Heya Aife,

    Comprimising is obviously healthy cause not always gunna agree or want the same but i think when someone is always comprimising for what the other person wants then there is proabably a level of unfairness. Like healthy compromising over things like places to go out or where to spend a hoilday or what to spend money on. But then one person not having much say everytime. -Think have to be willing to balance that sorta thing and meet their needs together - if feels like youre not getting much back and always giving up then pretty much one sided and maybe feels controlling. And not very respectfull at all if the other person doesnt take the other person needs or desires into account at all

    Also think there are some things we shouldnt be compromising with at all. Like things that change us ect like our careers or friendships. Being asked to change ourselves or whats are important to us —for what the other wants, for the relationship to work — i dont think should happened & unhealthy & a relationship should be about improving each other not opposite or changing them.
    But like compromising & changing bad habits for the better- like who does the cleaning and having a balance on that sort of stuff - if someone doesnt want to do it all the cleaning ect - is healthy

    I dont think ive made much sense or put my senentences that best, sorry.
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