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Unfortunately in love
So I’ve been involved with this guy who is in a relationship with his girlfriend for almost 1.5 years and he’s at a point where he says he loves me more and that he just has recoding feelings for his gf and he feels like she is more a friend than a gf to him at this point in time. I keep asking him when he’d leave her and he says he can’t decide that and he has told me that if his gf chooses to go wherever his job takes him ( even if it’s out of state ) only then will he be with her. And it makes me feel like I am an option or a back up plan for him. He tells me so convincingly that she doesn’t have the money to go elsewhere to study and that her parents won’t even let her go with him unless they get married. And so the most likely situation is that we’d end up together. But then again, when I ask him if he is sure about his feelings and how he should make a decision based off his feelings, he tells me that he just can’t tell me a decision right now. We have a year left for graduation and this whole situation is stressing me out so much. I want him to make up his mind and he’s so scared of me leaving him this summer which I really plan to do cause I cannot deal with this anymore. I don’t want to have to feel like a second option in any way. I hate this feeling of never being good enough. She is an American citizen and I am not and I strongly feel like he’s with her because Incase things don’t work out with his job in the future , he can just marry her and still continue staying here in the United States.