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MENTAL ISSUES?!
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I have never spoke a word to anyone regarding my mental health, I have never been diagnosed with anything either. Over the last year/2 years or so I have noticed I have been becoming increasingly unhappy with my life and feel like it is going nowhere. Every day I wake up and feel like I have no purpose, I feel like I have no meaningful connections with other people or a connection with someone on an emotional level where we can discuss our feelings and why we feel like we do. I want to be able to develop emotional connections with people but i just don't seem to be able to, I have never had a proper girlfriend, I have tried to put myself out there but the struggling to open up about my feelings i think makes it hard for people to understand me, i also do not do well with rejection if i get ignored it plays on my mind and shatters my confidence, which is probably why if i do ever start talking/seeing someone i just constantly think they want someone better than me, that i am not good enough. This has led to me to feel extremely lonely. I have family and friends but I do not trust them enough to tell them how I am feeling, I don't think they would take it seriously and I do not think they would be able to help either. I was abandoned as a baby by my Dad and have lived with my mum for all my life, my Dad came back into my life for about a year when I turned 13 and I have not spoken to him since. I do not have the best relationship with my Mum either, I argue with her nearly everyday and I hate being in the same room as her. I love her because she is my Mum and has raised me on her own but I do not like her or the way she is. I feel bad that I feel that way about her but i cannot help it, it only seems to get worse over time. I seem to have some good and bad days, mostly bad and i do have daily thoughts that maybe i would be better off if I killed myself, maybe this constant feeling of not being good enough, being lonely and unloved is worse than ending it. I would not follow it through, definitely not in the immediate future. I have not thought up any plans of how to do it, but it scares me that it keeps popping in my head when i start feeling down about things i do not want it to get to that extremity. I have always been one to bottle up my emotions and not tell people how i really feel about them, only time I do tell people is when i lose my temper and get angry. I am a very angry person inside my mood is constantly switching from anger to sadness. Sometimes the littlest things can tip me over the edge and i have on many occasions smashed things up in my house due to the anger, once it goes i cannot control it, i stop myself from hitting whoever makes me angry but i have that feeling of i want to hurt something or see something get destroyed because i think it will make me feel better. It never does but its the only way i know how to cope. with the anger.
I want to know if anyone else here has felt like this at some point and what the outcome was? I am sure many of you have felt like this and most probably have been in worse situations and had to deal with a lot more than this, but your feelings are you feelings and you cannot stop them. Anyone who has been in similar situations or felt similar what did you do to try and change? I have thought about going to a therapist but I do not think i am ready for one yet, the thought of opening up and showing a person my vulnerabilities scares me.
I want to know if anyone else here has felt like this at some point and what the outcome was? I am sure many of you have felt like this and most probably have been in worse situations and had to deal with a lot more than this, but your feelings are you feelings and you cannot stop them. Anyone who has been in similar situations or felt similar what did you do to try and change? I have thought about going to a therapist but I do not think i am ready for one yet, the thought of opening up and showing a person my vulnerabilities scares me.
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I'm not sure how much help i can be to you but i am always here to listen if you wanted someone to talk to?
In some ways i am similar to you in the fact that i hate opening up to people and keep my feelings to myself. I understand how hard that can be, especially when you want to talk to someone about things but get too scared.
You said that you are feeling more unhappy recently and it is understandable that you dont want to talk to your parents. I dont speak to my parents about things and thats why i find it really helpful on here because i can find people to talk to that listen and understand.
Have you thought about going to your GP and talking to them about how you are feeling and then they might be able to help you with what to do next? If you dont want to do that, maybe try the chats here for a bit to build the confidence in speaking to people like i am doing at the moment?
Im sorry if this hasent been very helpful for you. I'm always here you you though!
It definitely sounds like you're coping with a lot of really negative feelings recently and I'm sorry to hear that, it's understandable why you'd be worried about opening up about how you're feeling. You might find it helpful to visit your GP and talk to them about the rough time you've had lately, even if you don't feel ready to see a therapist there are a lot of great options they can recommend to you.
I would also advise talking to someone in your life about how you're feeling although it's understandable that you would feel nervous about doing so, lots of people find it difficult to open up about their emotions so you're definitely not alone there. If you want you could try talking anonymously one of the many great charities out there that help people dealing with such negative feelings such as The Samaritans https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us SupportLine http://www.supportline.org.uk/contact.php or SANE http://www.sane.org.uk/what_we_do/support/helpline/ . These are all really great services that you might want to look into.
You also mention that you've had problems with both your parents in the past, is that part of why you're feeling so down at all?
It's very brave of you to want to talk about this so thank you for opening up on the boards here.
- Riley
Best wishes! :rainbow2:
I have to say what you are describing is similar to how I am. I've been diagnosed with BPD and with that I suffer from severe mood swings, anger and often struggle to connect with people. I think going to your GP and asking to be referred to the mental health team is a good place to start. My advice on how to deal with this "drifting" right bow, would be to find something you love that gives you purpose, opening up is difficult when you've probably never had the emotional support necessary to do it, but writing letters expressing why you're upset/angry helped me communicate with people (my psych says anger is the response of someone whose needs aren't being met) and I also do breathing exercises whenever I feel like I'm becoming overwhelmed- perhaps engaging in mindfulness could help you ground yourself? There's a few apps out there now that helps with guided meditation though that may not be your cup of tea. All I can say is you're not alone, and if you want someone to vent to, we'll be here.