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Staying with friends

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi so I'm staying with friends atm. Two women.. I am finding it tough to be constantly around people when I used to live alone. I have lived with people in the past but not for a while. I am struggling to keep calm and not get stressed out.

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  • AifeAife Community Manager Posts: 2,920 Boards Guru
    Hey Turtle,

    I'm sorry to hear you're finding it tough to live with your friends at the moment. It can be hard moving back in with friends and getting used to a busy house when we're used to living alone. For some people what can help is to take some time in the day for yourself, so finding a quiet room to chill out in away from your housemates. Do you have your own room where you can go when you feel things are getting a bit too hectic? Communication is also really important too, do you feel you can talk to your housemates about what you're feeling stressed about?

    - Aife
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Aife
    I have my own room it is small but I like it. That's a good idea. I can't really talk to my friends as it is there house I am just staying in . Just don't feel like I have much say in like things and that's ok.. but I m nervous I am going to be annoying to them.
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,300 Skive's The Limit
    Hey turtle

    I understand the stress of being around people being to much. Especially if it's all of a sudden and not use to it. It can take some time to get use to but nice that you have your own room. And going out when you feel stressed for a walk or something that calms you down could help?. By yourself or with other People in a different environment.

    You live there so you have some say in things if you don't feel comfortable with certain things . And can say it in ways that may not seem annoying
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi thanks Shaunie
    I am just staying up away sometimes away form folk. I keep making tenison unintentionally
    Thanks for your advice
  • JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 4,962 The Mix Elder
    How's it going, Turtle?
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Things settled down a bit thankfully I always worry about being rude etc to people. I am going to move and stay with some family for a month next week. And then move again in July.

    But it's ok. :) Hope you are ok too .
  • RhysRhys Posts: 287 The Mix Regular
    Hey Turtle, just checking in to see if everything is okay. :)
    “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”― Bernard M. Baruch
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just moving tomorrow but all good. Hoping things will settle down when staying with down family
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