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I don't know how to make friends in RL

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Hi so I have no idea how to talk to people in RL I prefer to talk to men as I don't have alot in common with women and women make me a little uncomfortable, I know a couple of women that I get on with online but they really grate on me when I'm with them in person I get on with men both online and in person. I'd like a friend who lived near me and I could spend time with as I said in my intro I'd like to get to know my neighbour he seems shy like me (it would seem he's worse with women) I'm not interested in sex I can't have kids so what's the point anyway. I would like to meet other like minded people but don't know where to meet them plus my mum is kind of over protective of me because of my disabilities, I don't really know what else to say sorry if this doesn't make sense thanks x

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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,500 Skive's The Limit
    Hi.
    Ijust wanted to reply and give some suggestions.
    Maybe meeting people at some sort of club or going to more events. And doing volunteering roles could help to make friends and even if you don't make friends- itis a way you can be come more sociable to know how to try and make friends.

    I'm nott to sure who to make friends with your neighbour. Maybe inviting him round?

    I find it really hard to make friends but ive learnt to stop being so blunt with people when they are trying to speak to me.

    Making friends is a lot harder then it sounds but I think as you grt older it gets easier when you start socialising more and meeting new people.

    Sorry If i wasn't much help
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 8,618 Legendary Poster
    Hey Katie,

    Well done for posting this... you've taken a big step posting on here and it's great you're reaching out. TBH a lot of people find that with the genders I think, I know I do, I find women easier to talk to and be friends with but everyone is different.

    Making friends is not easy, I know that and particularly with a disability it makes it harder. It shouldn't but it does and there's no denying that. Shaunie has given you some great suggestions. Also maybe, if you can get into some clubs or classes that you are interested in, that might help you to make some friends - if you do that then you already have that interest in common and as something to talk about. As for your neighbour, how about maybe inviting him around for a coffee one day?

    Sorry if not much help
    Eleanor!
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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